Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Saturday, July 4, 2009
my personal poems
Originally written by Manuj for someone very special.
"My love is not a joke but it is all what drives my creativity towards the achievement of my dearest goal of having one & only one true friend in my life."
Poem 1
“Love is an ocean of devotion of emotions,
Facts are here as life here is in complete motion.
There is a vast difference between fantasy & dreams,
Fantasy creates obstacles in life whereas dreams create life like cream.
Tame your anger as it will help you in the long run,
I am talking about love with roses & not about a war with guns.
I am living my life just to make you smile,
If that is not for long & if that is just for a while.
I am highly motivated whenever I think about you,
I won’t say anything from my side coz I am seeing myself from your point of view.
If you think then it is correct that I can surpass my pleasures in mere words,
As I am not bound in this world & I am like a free bird.
I have the ability to bring your future in reality in the present now,
You know its real but you don’t know the reason how.
At every moment life teaches you more than you can ever think,
I am such a boat of hope that never sinks.
Life outside physical plane has no limits & laws,
I sacrifice my dreams only to serve some noble cause.
When dreams are sacrificed for good then rewards are in form of desires that are really small,
I never do anything for my selfish happiness but I do it for the happiness of all.
True love has the power to change your life by changing your thinking style,
This is all I mentioned in this particular poem in the form of a wonderful file.”
Poem 2
“My love for someone is not general but a complete mystery,
Someday people will remember me & read about me in the books of history.
You try your best to forget me by doing whatever you want to do,
Just go ahead with your rigid thinking & without me happiness won’t come to you.
It is my kind of love that everyone seeks,
May be just because I am one of a kind & completely unique.
Situations in your life might have become tragic,
So why not go with my flow & I’ll show you the magic.
The world now is really selfish as the thinking is very mean,
Haven’t you had enough of this nonsense scene?
So why not give me a chance & give it a try,
I promise you one thing for sure that I won’t let you cry.
May be you don’t know how much I care for you,
It is just because my love for you is really true.”
Poem 3
“True love is not always about passionate feelings,
It is more about friendship & long-term compassionate dealings.
It is all about excitement & fun,
I promise to give you so much that it won’t be in grams but it’ll be in tons.
I don’t know whether you love me but I always loved you,
Just ask me once & I’ll show what is there in my heart for you.
I always believed that true love has the power to change,
It’s in your heart so even you are far then too you’ll be within my range.
Your heart beats at a very rapid pace just because of love & not under pressure,
The feelings in my heart are a pot of pure gold & secret treasure.
How can I show you my feelings when you really don’t want to see?
I’ll keep these feelings to myself & tame this passionate fire within my heart to drive me creatively.”
Poem 4
“My dream is only to spend some time alone with you,
Only & only if you want me to.
If someday I’ll show you my passion you will surely go nuts,
Just dare to ask me only if you have the guts.
There is so much of fire in my heart,
Don’t even try to break my heart again or else I’ll hit your heart hard like a dart.
All I want you to be my real true date,
Considering the fact that you can’t be my soul mate.
On my date with you I’ll serve you with the best of wine.
I’ll make sure that everything goes smoothly & by the end you feel fine.
It is my life & I love to live this way,
If you want something else then don’t hesitate to say.
Why can’t we enjoy our life to the fullest when we can?
I am saying so much coz it takes a lot of courage to be a man.
Don’t say no as now my heart will cry & scream,
Just say yes if you really care for me & fulfill my such a lovely dream.”
Poem 5
“Just be with me for a day alone or even for a night,
I’ll present you my love in the form of an irresistible love bite.
If you only want me as a love guide,
I’ll show you this world from a different perspective when I’ll take you on a ride.
Don’t think about this ruthless world & don’t run after the unrealistic fame,
As someday later it will surely make you completely insane.
Life is not about all what you can see,
Just look at your past from your heart if you don’t trust me.
Wait for sometime you’ll see the reality very soon,
My love is like a cool breeze of that nightly full moon.”
Poem 6
“My love is so innocent & it is so pure,
So there is no problem in my life that I can’t cure.
It has a tremendous power that it’ll bring you closer to me even more,
As I am gifted a blessing by the ultimate to join broken hearts for sure.
My love has the ability to join earth with the sky,
Don’t ever end up with me & don’t say the word bye.
And if you end up someday I’ll not question you why?
You might not understand my feelings for you when I start my conversation by greeting you hi!
My love is a real book with so much of knowledge,
Then why don’t you apply for a master’s degree in my loving heart’s college?
Whenever I talk to you in the night,
The fire in my heart takes the form of a very bright light.
May be coz the motivation you provide me is really pure & white,
So the very next day I feel flying in the sky like a kite.
Don’t be so selfish dear as it is not right.
Just hold my hand & together we’ll reach those heights.
Be my friend on a one to one relation,
Together we’ll guard our gates of such a wonderful creation.
My love for you is not a train but a perfect station,
Lets do something different to change this static tradition.”
Poem 7
“I am so practical now as earlier I was so dumb,
When I sacrificed my dearest dream for you my heart felt so numb.
I proposed you to be my true friend so many times just with hope,
And every time you ended the conversation with the word nope.
Love is a game of cat & mouse,
Then why can’t I live my dreams & create my own virtual house.
There is not much difference between me & you,
We have so many things in common & the differences are very few.
I really don’t know how you feel coz I live so far,
You search me in the light of day & I search you at night after hours.
My love is so beautiful that is now in fashion,
It is all about feelings & not about possession.
Talk about love with me & please don’t hate,
And if you don’t want me to be happy then I would consider it as my fate.
Love is so magical that it can open your heart’s gate,
Say something nice, something wonderful before it’s too late.”
Poem 8
“I work like hell to keep myself so busy,
When I am sitting alone in my room I feel so dizzy.
I’ll never tell you what is my dream,
The feelings in my heart are like leaves colored dark green.
You proved me once that you were a hottie,
Be like that with me & act a bit naughty.
Just ask me my life for anything & I’ll surely give,
But the true fact goes like live & let live.
Truth is something different that you can’t hide,
Just keep saying no-no at first & at last you’ll agree with me for such a ride.”
Poem 9
“Be with me & be my very true friend,
All you have to do is to follow my personal trend.
Don’t just play with me, as it is my life,
Your sadness is cutting my heart into pieces like a sharp knife.
Don’t be unhappy, as I’ll be sad,
Please don’t leave me or else I’ll turn up to be bad.
I am a guy so I do have my reputation,
I can feel the pain I caused to you coz I can feel your heart’s sensation.
Is it because I happen to have some internal link with you?
Just try to see everything from the other side & you’ll understand my point of view.
If you think you have no reputation & you have lost,
Simply use the knowledge of my love & it’ll surely come back to you at all cost.”
Poem 10
“Love is a fire of some affectionate desire,
None of the lovers are honest but they are all liars.
I am seeing all this from my very own eyes,
This gives me the motivation & the power to rise.
Love is a feeling that needs to flow in a continuous motion,
We are only drops of love but this feeling is like a powerful tide of an ocean.
If I am a sparkplug then you are my lead,
Together we can create magic in life at a very rapid speed.
I am your guitar then you are my strings,
I’ll show you someday what love in your life can bring.
All I am doing is checking the depths of love in your heart with the hacker’s tool called ping,
I promise you for sure that one day you will definitely call me a love king.”
Poem 11
“What do you think about me now as a whole,
I give my love to everyone in different ways so that everything rolls.
Considering the acts of my past you think I am an emotional fool,
Then you are mistaken dear as you haven’t seen the other side where I am so cool.
At some point in your life things might be turning in your favor,
You really don’t know the reason coz I am behind it who is taking the pain & doing the labor.
I’ll make this world a very small place for you dear,
I’ll do whatever it takes to fulfill my dreams & have patience till the road is clear.
According to you a guy is perfect just because of the looks in a physical way,
I’ll make sure to change this attitude & thinking you have one day.”
Poem 12
“When you judge me not from your heart & do it from your mind,
You feel I am selfish & not kind.
My life is always on a play mode & never rewind,
One day for sure you’ll realize that the love I gave you is something that in this world today you can never find.
I’ve given you my life in this book & you are always welcomed to read,
Be very friendly with me & don’t ever treat me with anger & greed.
Don’t talk to me, don’t trust me but please don’t forget me at least,
I’ll definitely show you one day that with the power of my love I can even tame a wild beast.”
Poem 13
“I am pouring for you so much of love from my heart’s jug,
Don’t you think that I deserve something in return, it can just be a smile or a warm hug?
Everyone & even you did not understand the love of my unfortunate soul,
Always remember one thing that to search a precious diamond you really have to dig the mines of coal.
Everyone & everything will surely change in your life at a speed so fast,
I’ll always be there for you till the end & till my life lasts.
I know that our relationship will last forever & all it requires is a little twist,
The day is not too far when I’ll have my name on top on your dearest heart’s list.
If you really want to know how much for you I care,
Just think about walking on fire with your feet completely bare.”
Poem 14
You live your life the way you like & I won’t mind,
Someday I’ll disappear in this world so that you can’t find.
Fulfilling your dreams is the dearest path of my heart in my life,
If your life ends up soon then it’ll be hard for me to survive.
It is all happiness that I want you to gain,
Don’t worry how as I’ll take the necessary pain.
You are my dearest goal & you are my lovely aim,
Why should I be afraid of anything when I am saying everything that is in my heart without any shame?
I’ll make you my true friend someday as on that slot of my heart is only your name,
It is only you on my mind coz you are flowing with my blood in all my veins.”
Poem 15
“If you are seeking my love just for the sake of your own pleasure,
It will go beyond those extents that throughout you life you won’t be able to measure.
We are not communicating coz there is some kind of an emotional pause,
Now every time I am thinking about you & for that I don’t know the reason & I don’t know the cause.
Every day & every night I am waiting for your call,
But I think that you’ve really kicked me out from your heart like some kind of an unwanted ball.
Do you think that writing such poems are easy for me,
Then you really don’t know how much pain I take to try my best just to show you the world hidden inside your heart that you can only feel but you can’t see.
After so much that had happened & you don’t care for me,
So live your life the way you like & therefore let it be.
Always remember that every problem has its own unique solution,
So why are you upset & what is the confusion.”
Poem 16
“You may never know what my love is all about,
It is so mysterious that it can change your complete personality inside out.
It is a very powerful magical tool in my heart’s box,
My love knows all ways coz it is so clever & witty just like a wild fox.
If you want me then all you have to do is just look up,
And if we want to be together then why can’t we hook up.
I present myself to others the way I like,
If you want to know more about me then all you need is a ride on my bike.
I don’t like selfish people & I don’t like to fight,
I only listen to my heart & do whatever I feel is right.”
Poem 17
“My love is a long term investment & not a short term loan,
So talk to me sweetly by changing your selfish tone,
My passion is aroused whenever I look into your eyes,
So tell me the truth coz whatever you are saying now is all lies.
I love to smoke coz cigarettes would certainly kill me at a very slow pace,
What is my life without you coz you are only my life’s base?
Just listen to your heartbeats & enter that wonderful trance,
Someday I’ll be in a country where there is only love & romance.”
Poem 18
“Whenever I think about you I feel as if I am hurt,
Don’t you consider me as a human & with you I should flirt.
I know how to create my reality my way,
If you really want to end up with me then don’t just keep it to yourself but just say.
Don’t try to run away from me coz in this small world you really can’t hide,
One day you’ll realize that whatever I said was all true & then only you’ll take my side.
My love for you is a perfect web of a spider,
Everyday when I dream about you my vision for love grows more & more wider.
It’s all just love that hurts like a pointed pin,
The day when your theory towards love will change, you’ll fall in love with me & would certainly do a sin.
So lets be together for sometime & lets have fun,
Coz my love for you is growing more & more just like the heat of the almighty sun.”
Poem 19
“You are not independent coz you follow only what you are taught,
I know that you love me in the same way but you hide it coz you don’t want to get caught.
It was all your heart that I wanted to win,
I know that I won it but I lost your trust in me so see in love what a fool I’ve been.
Please say those three words just for my sake,
You’ll surely be surprised to see the change that I make.
There is only love in my heart & there is no such word as hate,
So I do know the art to create my trust for you so intimate.”
Poem 20
“Please do hate me from your heart & soul,
Coz I love to take the pain to reach the stars & attain my goal.
When I cared for you, I loved you with complete devotion,
If now you want to feel me then all you have to do is feel the power in the words that carry my emotions.
I don’t need your blessing but I just want your curse,
As I’ve almost lost everything so what can be worse?
Love is a sweet poison that can kill anyone for sure,
But when you’ll understand it completely then you’ll know that it is the best remedy for any cure.
So I want you to hate me even more & more,
Maybe then you’ll realize that my love for you was not selfish but it was always pure.”
Poem21
“You know in reality that my love is unconditional,
So in this modern world why you are scared & acting so traditional.
My love has the power to drive you with confidence in the territories that are unknown,
It’ll take you to those heights where there are no negative feelings & where the seeds of happiness are sown.
I love you not because of your looks but coz of your heart’s beauty,
My purpose is to preserve & protect you coz that’s my purpose in life & a final duty.
You are acting in a way that is really confusing,
And I think that you don’t know when I am pouring my emotions here for you what I am loosing.”
Here is the link to my personal poems at hubpages
my personal poems
"My love is not a joke but it is all what drives my creativity towards the achievement of my dearest goal of having one & only one true friend in my life."
Poem 1
“Love is an ocean of devotion of emotions,
Facts are here as life here is in complete motion.
There is a vast difference between fantasy & dreams,
Fantasy creates obstacles in life whereas dreams create life like cream.
Tame your anger as it will help you in the long run,
I am talking about love with roses & not about a war with guns.
I am living my life just to make you smile,
If that is not for long & if that is just for a while.
I am highly motivated whenever I think about you,
I won’t say anything from my side coz I am seeing myself from your point of view.
If you think then it is correct that I can surpass my pleasures in mere words,
As I am not bound in this world & I am like a free bird.
I have the ability to bring your future in reality in the present now,
You know its real but you don’t know the reason how.
At every moment life teaches you more than you can ever think,
I am such a boat of hope that never sinks.
Life outside physical plane has no limits & laws,
I sacrifice my dreams only to serve some noble cause.
When dreams are sacrificed for good then rewards are in form of desires that are really small,
I never do anything for my selfish happiness but I do it for the happiness of all.
True love has the power to change your life by changing your thinking style,
This is all I mentioned in this particular poem in the form of a wonderful file.”
Poem 2
“My love for someone is not general but a complete mystery,
Someday people will remember me & read about me in the books of history.
You try your best to forget me by doing whatever you want to do,
Just go ahead with your rigid thinking & without me happiness won’t come to you.
It is my kind of love that everyone seeks,
May be just because I am one of a kind & completely unique.
Situations in your life might have become tragic,
So why not go with my flow & I’ll show you the magic.
The world now is really selfish as the thinking is very mean,
Haven’t you had enough of this nonsense scene?
So why not give me a chance & give it a try,
I promise you one thing for sure that I won’t let you cry.
May be you don’t know how much I care for you,
It is just because my love for you is really true.”
Poem 3
“True love is not always about passionate feelings,
It is more about friendship & long-term compassionate dealings.
It is all about excitement & fun,
I promise to give you so much that it won’t be in grams but it’ll be in tons.
I don’t know whether you love me but I always loved you,
Just ask me once & I’ll show what is there in my heart for you.
I always believed that true love has the power to change,
It’s in your heart so even you are far then too you’ll be within my range.
Your heart beats at a very rapid pace just because of love & not under pressure,
The feelings in my heart are a pot of pure gold & secret treasure.
How can I show you my feelings when you really don’t want to see?
I’ll keep these feelings to myself & tame this passionate fire within my heart to drive me creatively.”
Poem 4
“My dream is only to spend some time alone with you,
Only & only if you want me to.
If someday I’ll show you my passion you will surely go nuts,
Just dare to ask me only if you have the guts.
There is so much of fire in my heart,
Don’t even try to break my heart again or else I’ll hit your heart hard like a dart.
All I want you to be my real true date,
Considering the fact that you can’t be my soul mate.
On my date with you I’ll serve you with the best of wine.
I’ll make sure that everything goes smoothly & by the end you feel fine.
It is my life & I love to live this way,
If you want something else then don’t hesitate to say.
Why can’t we enjoy our life to the fullest when we can?
I am saying so much coz it takes a lot of courage to be a man.
Don’t say no as now my heart will cry & scream,
Just say yes if you really care for me & fulfill my such a lovely dream.”
Poem 5
“Just be with me for a day alone or even for a night,
I’ll present you my love in the form of an irresistible love bite.
If you only want me as a love guide,
I’ll show you this world from a different perspective when I’ll take you on a ride.
Don’t think about this ruthless world & don’t run after the unrealistic fame,
As someday later it will surely make you completely insane.
Life is not about all what you can see,
Just look at your past from your heart if you don’t trust me.
Wait for sometime you’ll see the reality very soon,
My love is like a cool breeze of that nightly full moon.”
Poem 6
“My love is so innocent & it is so pure,
So there is no problem in my life that I can’t cure.
It has a tremendous power that it’ll bring you closer to me even more,
As I am gifted a blessing by the ultimate to join broken hearts for sure.
My love has the ability to join earth with the sky,
Don’t ever end up with me & don’t say the word bye.
And if you end up someday I’ll not question you why?
You might not understand my feelings for you when I start my conversation by greeting you hi!
My love is a real book with so much of knowledge,
Then why don’t you apply for a master’s degree in my loving heart’s college?
Whenever I talk to you in the night,
The fire in my heart takes the form of a very bright light.
May be coz the motivation you provide me is really pure & white,
So the very next day I feel flying in the sky like a kite.
Don’t be so selfish dear as it is not right.
Just hold my hand & together we’ll reach those heights.
Be my friend on a one to one relation,
Together we’ll guard our gates of such a wonderful creation.
My love for you is not a train but a perfect station,
Lets do something different to change this static tradition.”
Poem 7
“I am so practical now as earlier I was so dumb,
When I sacrificed my dearest dream for you my heart felt so numb.
I proposed you to be my true friend so many times just with hope,
And every time you ended the conversation with the word nope.
Love is a game of cat & mouse,
Then why can’t I live my dreams & create my own virtual house.
There is not much difference between me & you,
We have so many things in common & the differences are very few.
I really don’t know how you feel coz I live so far,
You search me in the light of day & I search you at night after hours.
My love is so beautiful that is now in fashion,
It is all about feelings & not about possession.
Talk about love with me & please don’t hate,
And if you don’t want me to be happy then I would consider it as my fate.
Love is so magical that it can open your heart’s gate,
Say something nice, something wonderful before it’s too late.”
Poem 8
“I work like hell to keep myself so busy,
When I am sitting alone in my room I feel so dizzy.
I’ll never tell you what is my dream,
The feelings in my heart are like leaves colored dark green.
You proved me once that you were a hottie,
Be like that with me & act a bit naughty.
Just ask me my life for anything & I’ll surely give,
But the true fact goes like live & let live.
Truth is something different that you can’t hide,
Just keep saying no-no at first & at last you’ll agree with me for such a ride.”
Poem 9
“Be with me & be my very true friend,
All you have to do is to follow my personal trend.
Don’t just play with me, as it is my life,
Your sadness is cutting my heart into pieces like a sharp knife.
Don’t be unhappy, as I’ll be sad,
Please don’t leave me or else I’ll turn up to be bad.
I am a guy so I do have my reputation,
I can feel the pain I caused to you coz I can feel your heart’s sensation.
Is it because I happen to have some internal link with you?
Just try to see everything from the other side & you’ll understand my point of view.
If you think you have no reputation & you have lost,
Simply use the knowledge of my love & it’ll surely come back to you at all cost.”
Poem 10
“Love is a fire of some affectionate desire,
None of the lovers are honest but they are all liars.
I am seeing all this from my very own eyes,
This gives me the motivation & the power to rise.
Love is a feeling that needs to flow in a continuous motion,
We are only drops of love but this feeling is like a powerful tide of an ocean.
If I am a sparkplug then you are my lead,
Together we can create magic in life at a very rapid speed.
I am your guitar then you are my strings,
I’ll show you someday what love in your life can bring.
All I am doing is checking the depths of love in your heart with the hacker’s tool called ping,
I promise you for sure that one day you will definitely call me a love king.”
Poem 11
“What do you think about me now as a whole,
I give my love to everyone in different ways so that everything rolls.
Considering the acts of my past you think I am an emotional fool,
Then you are mistaken dear as you haven’t seen the other side where I am so cool.
At some point in your life things might be turning in your favor,
You really don’t know the reason coz I am behind it who is taking the pain & doing the labor.
I’ll make this world a very small place for you dear,
I’ll do whatever it takes to fulfill my dreams & have patience till the road is clear.
According to you a guy is perfect just because of the looks in a physical way,
I’ll make sure to change this attitude & thinking you have one day.”
Poem 12
“When you judge me not from your heart & do it from your mind,
You feel I am selfish & not kind.
My life is always on a play mode & never rewind,
One day for sure you’ll realize that the love I gave you is something that in this world today you can never find.
I’ve given you my life in this book & you are always welcomed to read,
Be very friendly with me & don’t ever treat me with anger & greed.
Don’t talk to me, don’t trust me but please don’t forget me at least,
I’ll definitely show you one day that with the power of my love I can even tame a wild beast.”
Poem 13
“I am pouring for you so much of love from my heart’s jug,
Don’t you think that I deserve something in return, it can just be a smile or a warm hug?
Everyone & even you did not understand the love of my unfortunate soul,
Always remember one thing that to search a precious diamond you really have to dig the mines of coal.
Everyone & everything will surely change in your life at a speed so fast,
I’ll always be there for you till the end & till my life lasts.
I know that our relationship will last forever & all it requires is a little twist,
The day is not too far when I’ll have my name on top on your dearest heart’s list.
If you really want to know how much for you I care,
Just think about walking on fire with your feet completely bare.”
Poem 14
You live your life the way you like & I won’t mind,
Someday I’ll disappear in this world so that you can’t find.
Fulfilling your dreams is the dearest path of my heart in my life,
If your life ends up soon then it’ll be hard for me to survive.
It is all happiness that I want you to gain,
Don’t worry how as I’ll take the necessary pain.
You are my dearest goal & you are my lovely aim,
Why should I be afraid of anything when I am saying everything that is in my heart without any shame?
I’ll make you my true friend someday as on that slot of my heart is only your name,
It is only you on my mind coz you are flowing with my blood in all my veins.”
Poem 15
“If you are seeking my love just for the sake of your own pleasure,
It will go beyond those extents that throughout you life you won’t be able to measure.
We are not communicating coz there is some kind of an emotional pause,
Now every time I am thinking about you & for that I don’t know the reason & I don’t know the cause.
Every day & every night I am waiting for your call,
But I think that you’ve really kicked me out from your heart like some kind of an unwanted ball.
Do you think that writing such poems are easy for me,
Then you really don’t know how much pain I take to try my best just to show you the world hidden inside your heart that you can only feel but you can’t see.
After so much that had happened & you don’t care for me,
So live your life the way you like & therefore let it be.
Always remember that every problem has its own unique solution,
So why are you upset & what is the confusion.”
Poem 16
“You may never know what my love is all about,
It is so mysterious that it can change your complete personality inside out.
It is a very powerful magical tool in my heart’s box,
My love knows all ways coz it is so clever & witty just like a wild fox.
If you want me then all you have to do is just look up,
And if we want to be together then why can’t we hook up.
I present myself to others the way I like,
If you want to know more about me then all you need is a ride on my bike.
I don’t like selfish people & I don’t like to fight,
I only listen to my heart & do whatever I feel is right.”
Poem 17
“My love is a long term investment & not a short term loan,
So talk to me sweetly by changing your selfish tone,
My passion is aroused whenever I look into your eyes,
So tell me the truth coz whatever you are saying now is all lies.
I love to smoke coz cigarettes would certainly kill me at a very slow pace,
What is my life without you coz you are only my life’s base?
Just listen to your heartbeats & enter that wonderful trance,
Someday I’ll be in a country where there is only love & romance.”
Poem 18
“Whenever I think about you I feel as if I am hurt,
Don’t you consider me as a human & with you I should flirt.
I know how to create my reality my way,
If you really want to end up with me then don’t just keep it to yourself but just say.
Don’t try to run away from me coz in this small world you really can’t hide,
One day you’ll realize that whatever I said was all true & then only you’ll take my side.
My love for you is a perfect web of a spider,
Everyday when I dream about you my vision for love grows more & more wider.
It’s all just love that hurts like a pointed pin,
The day when your theory towards love will change, you’ll fall in love with me & would certainly do a sin.
So lets be together for sometime & lets have fun,
Coz my love for you is growing more & more just like the heat of the almighty sun.”
Poem 19
“You are not independent coz you follow only what you are taught,
I know that you love me in the same way but you hide it coz you don’t want to get caught.
It was all your heart that I wanted to win,
I know that I won it but I lost your trust in me so see in love what a fool I’ve been.
Please say those three words just for my sake,
You’ll surely be surprised to see the change that I make.
There is only love in my heart & there is no such word as hate,
So I do know the art to create my trust for you so intimate.”
Poem 20
“Please do hate me from your heart & soul,
Coz I love to take the pain to reach the stars & attain my goal.
When I cared for you, I loved you with complete devotion,
If now you want to feel me then all you have to do is feel the power in the words that carry my emotions.
I don’t need your blessing but I just want your curse,
As I’ve almost lost everything so what can be worse?
Love is a sweet poison that can kill anyone for sure,
But when you’ll understand it completely then you’ll know that it is the best remedy for any cure.
So I want you to hate me even more & more,
Maybe then you’ll realize that my love for you was not selfish but it was always pure.”
Poem21
“You know in reality that my love is unconditional,
So in this modern world why you are scared & acting so traditional.
My love has the power to drive you with confidence in the territories that are unknown,
It’ll take you to those heights where there are no negative feelings & where the seeds of happiness are sown.
I love you not because of your looks but coz of your heart’s beauty,
My purpose is to preserve & protect you coz that’s my purpose in life & a final duty.
You are acting in a way that is really confusing,
And I think that you don’t know when I am pouring my emotions here for you what I am loosing.”
Here is the link to my personal poems at hubpages
my personal poems
Friday, June 26, 2009
What You Should Never Do When You Buy A Car
Sooner or later most people buy a new car. It doesn't matter if it's your third new car or your first, it almost always happens sometime.
There is an art to buying a new car and if you know it, you're better prepared when that day arrives.
Every car buyer knows that there are tricks to getting a car at a reasonable price. Dealerships and private sellers rarely mark the car at it's actual worth.
Instead, they mark the price up a little so that they make a good profit for themselves. Another reason is that this lets them give their salespeople better commissions, and this makes them work harder to sell the car to you.
Whatever the reason, almost all dealerships can be talked down on their initial prices, if you know how to haggle properly. When you buy a car, keep this in mind all the time.
The savvy buyer will know that they can talk the dealership's prices down a little bit, if he/she knows the dealer's lingo and tricks beforehand and shows that he/she are prepared to deal with them.
Salesmen are there to try and hustle a good price for the company, while you are trying to hustle a good price for yourself.
If you have ever wanted to get your money's worth out of buying a car, then this will be your comprehensive guide to getting through all of the bull and getting a car at a good price.
Most of the time, it isn't even just the deal of buying a car that is the problem. Dealers and salesmen have a way of getting extra money out of you for the "extras".
Many people don't even realize that they purchased the extras until the deal has been closed. And then it's too late.
Salesmen speak their own language, and to know when you are being sold on something that you don't want, you need to know how to speak the same language as the salesmen do. Once you do, you will never again be oversold when you buy a car.
Buying a car doesn't have to be scary and it doesn't have to be the worst experience of your life. Many people are worried when they buy a car because they know that they are likely going to get ripped off.
There is an art to buying a new car and if you know it, you're better prepared when that day arrives.
Every car buyer knows that there are tricks to getting a car at a reasonable price. Dealerships and private sellers rarely mark the car at it's actual worth.
Instead, they mark the price up a little so that they make a good profit for themselves. Another reason is that this lets them give their salespeople better commissions, and this makes them work harder to sell the car to you.
Whatever the reason, almost all dealerships can be talked down on their initial prices, if you know how to haggle properly. When you buy a car, keep this in mind all the time.
The savvy buyer will know that they can talk the dealership's prices down a little bit, if he/she knows the dealer's lingo and tricks beforehand and shows that he/she are prepared to deal with them.
Salesmen are there to try and hustle a good price for the company, while you are trying to hustle a good price for yourself.
If you have ever wanted to get your money's worth out of buying a car, then this will be your comprehensive guide to getting through all of the bull and getting a car at a good price.
Most of the time, it isn't even just the deal of buying a car that is the problem. Dealers and salesmen have a way of getting extra money out of you for the "extras".
Many people don't even realize that they purchased the extras until the deal has been closed. And then it's too late.
Salesmen speak their own language, and to know when you are being sold on something that you don't want, you need to know how to speak the same language as the salesmen do. Once you do, you will never again be oversold when you buy a car.
Buying a car doesn't have to be scary and it doesn't have to be the worst experience of your life. Many people are worried when they buy a car because they know that they are likely going to get ripped off.
You Can Protect Your Car From Mother Nature
Mother Nature has it out for you...your car, that is. The moment you bring your vehicle home from the dealership, the assault has begun. Sun, rain, snow, hail, dust, birds, debris, pollution, and a host of other elements and items can doom your "new car" look in no time. What can you do? Fight back, that's how. Let's take a look at some smart ways you can protect your vehicle's finish and keep it from looking old before its time.
Wash and wax. Okay, so you don't have a hose handy. If you go to the car wash, make sure that it is brushless, otherwise the circular marks on your finish will certainly do a number on your car's appearance in no time. As far as waxing your vehicle, polishes made by popular brands including Turtle Wax should do the trick. Yes, I know, a friend recommended a particular brand that can give your car a look that is better than new. Go ahead and use it...just follow the directions on the bottle precisely!
Keep it covered. Yes, driving down the street with a car cover on your car will certainly get you some attention! I do not recommend that you do that, but having a car cover available for your vehicle makes sense even if you keep your prized possession garaged. Dust and indoor pollution can take its toll even when your car sits in your garage while bird crap, moisture, hail, tree sap, the sun, and small impacts can hurt your car's finish when parked outside. The more layers your car cover has, the better the protection it will offer too. Select one that has mirror pockets for the best fit.
Minor details. Other accessories that offer protection for your vehicle include: floor mats and liners, seat covers, vent shades, hood protectors, and brake dust shields. If you carry pets regularly then a pet pad or pet box can protect your interior like nothing else.
Wash and wax. Okay, so you don't have a hose handy. If you go to the car wash, make sure that it is brushless, otherwise the circular marks on your finish will certainly do a number on your car's appearance in no time. As far as waxing your vehicle, polishes made by popular brands including Turtle Wax should do the trick. Yes, I know, a friend recommended a particular brand that can give your car a look that is better than new. Go ahead and use it...just follow the directions on the bottle precisely!
Keep it covered. Yes, driving down the street with a car cover on your car will certainly get you some attention! I do not recommend that you do that, but having a car cover available for your vehicle makes sense even if you keep your prized possession garaged. Dust and indoor pollution can take its toll even when your car sits in your garage while bird crap, moisture, hail, tree sap, the sun, and small impacts can hurt your car's finish when parked outside. The more layers your car cover has, the better the protection it will offer too. Select one that has mirror pockets for the best fit.
Minor details. Other accessories that offer protection for your vehicle include: floor mats and liners, seat covers, vent shades, hood protectors, and brake dust shields. If you carry pets regularly then a pet pad or pet box can protect your interior like nothing else.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Can you really get a free car?
You may have heard rumours that you can get a free car. Well, this is not exactly true.
As the old adage goes, you can't get something for nothing and this holds true in this case.
You can however ALMOST get a free car.
Why do I say almost?
Because you are going to put your car in a job!
That's right!
Advertising companies are willing to employ your car to display logos, signs and almost any sort of fluffy toy that suits their marketing campaign.
You see, advertising space has become very crowded and advertisers in their wisdom have worked out that people actually pay attention when they are driving.
Otherwise they will crash. Now that's not rocket science is it?
Well, if you know anything about advertising you will realise that the first step of the Ultimate Advertising Mantra is.
ATTENTION.
And so we have the perfect advertising medium.
So yes it's true, they will pay you and in some cases you can actually cover your loan repayments, which means in effect.
You are getting a free car.
As the old adage goes, you can't get something for nothing and this holds true in this case.
You can however ALMOST get a free car.
Why do I say almost?
Because you are going to put your car in a job!
That's right!
Advertising companies are willing to employ your car to display logos, signs and almost any sort of fluffy toy that suits their marketing campaign.
You see, advertising space has become very crowded and advertisers in their wisdom have worked out that people actually pay attention when they are driving.
Otherwise they will crash. Now that's not rocket science is it?
Well, if you know anything about advertising you will realise that the first step of the Ultimate Advertising Mantra is.
ATTENTION.
And so we have the perfect advertising medium.
So yes it's true, they will pay you and in some cases you can actually cover your loan repayments, which means in effect.
You are getting a free car.
A Guide to International Car Shipping
International car shipping is the service you will undoubtedly require if you want to transport your car over a long distance. As the name suggests, it entails a company putting your car onto a ship at one destination and then ensuring it’s safe arrival at the other side. Depending on the company you choose to complete this service for you they may also be responsible for getting your car to and from the shipping docks. Some companies offer a door-to-door service. Many different people and organizations enlist the help of a shipping company for several different reasons. Individuals use shipping companies to transport valuable vehicles, antique cars that can’t be driven over longer distances and even just to transport the family car to a new home while they fly. Companies may use a shipping company to move their fleet cars during a relocation and showrooms obviously use them for transporting their cars from the manufacturers to there showrooms.
Recent years have seen a massive increase in imported cars, especially from Japan, where top quality and high performance cars can be acquired for some of the lowest prices imaginable. This increase is also seeing many more individuals needing an international car shipping company to bring the cars into the country.
What is included in the price you pay for international car shipping?
As with most things the price you pay for your international car shipping is pretty much dependant on the car shipping company you choose and before you make your final decision you should be very careful that you have been comparing like for like. Some shipping companies will include a number of value added services that the cheaper company may not offer. In order to be sure you are getting the best deals make sure you read all of the terms and conditions on the site. Here is a short guide to selecting the most cost effective international car shipping company for your needs:
1. Get quotes from as many companies as possible.
2. First of all you should consider any services that you definitely require; perhaps you have to have door to door delivery in which case you would only consider those companies that offer door to door delivery in their price. Be sure to exclude anyone who doesn’t offer any of the essential services you require regardless of how cheap their prices are.
3. Now write down which services and extras each of the companies remaining offer. Also write down the price.
4. Remove any international car shipping company that is way overpriced unless they offer something significant that the others don’t. Also remove any company that offers very few of the services you would like (not essential, but preferred).
5. You should either be left with one offer that is noticeably cheaper than the others while still offering the same products. If so, this is the most cost effective solution for you. Alternatively, if the prices are all similar and one offers many more services, that is the most cost effective solution.
6. If, however, there are several international car shipping companies left with similar prices for similar services then it’s time to ring back and get them to offer you that little something extra.
Recent years have seen a massive increase in imported cars, especially from Japan, where top quality and high performance cars can be acquired for some of the lowest prices imaginable. This increase is also seeing many more individuals needing an international car shipping company to bring the cars into the country.
What is included in the price you pay for international car shipping?
As with most things the price you pay for your international car shipping is pretty much dependant on the car shipping company you choose and before you make your final decision you should be very careful that you have been comparing like for like. Some shipping companies will include a number of value added services that the cheaper company may not offer. In order to be sure you are getting the best deals make sure you read all of the terms and conditions on the site. Here is a short guide to selecting the most cost effective international car shipping company for your needs:
1. Get quotes from as many companies as possible.
2. First of all you should consider any services that you definitely require; perhaps you have to have door to door delivery in which case you would only consider those companies that offer door to door delivery in their price. Be sure to exclude anyone who doesn’t offer any of the essential services you require regardless of how cheap their prices are.
3. Now write down which services and extras each of the companies remaining offer. Also write down the price.
4. Remove any international car shipping company that is way overpriced unless they offer something significant that the others don’t. Also remove any company that offers very few of the services you would like (not essential, but preferred).
5. You should either be left with one offer that is noticeably cheaper than the others while still offering the same products. If so, this is the most cost effective solution for you. Alternatively, if the prices are all similar and one offers many more services, that is the most cost effective solution.
6. If, however, there are several international car shipping companies left with similar prices for similar services then it’s time to ring back and get them to offer you that little something extra.
Should I Buy a Car at A Car Auction
Should I Buy a Car at A Car Auction?
Car/Auto Auctions have been around for years and dealers get a lot of stock from auctions.
But for the average person buying a car from an auction is not so simple.
Yes, you can get a cheaper car, but you the reason it is cheaper is that you are not getting all the guarantees. Basically, you bid on it. You own it.
If you are a conservative person without much experience in motor vehicles, I would recommend that you do not just go out and buy a car from an auction.
However, if you have a mechanical eye, good observation and are willing to familiarize yourself with the process, then it can be a good way to pick up a bargain.
If you don't like the car you can usually sell it again and get your money back, even with a profit.
I have bought and sold several cars at auctions with great results and you can too. If you really want to get the lowdown before you start, then I recommend you read my book Motor Auction Profit Secrets. This will prepare you and incidentally also shows you how to profit from this activity as well.
Car/Auto Auctions have been around for years and dealers get a lot of stock from auctions.
But for the average person buying a car from an auction is not so simple.
Yes, you can get a cheaper car, but you the reason it is cheaper is that you are not getting all the guarantees. Basically, you bid on it. You own it.
If you are a conservative person without much experience in motor vehicles, I would recommend that you do not just go out and buy a car from an auction.
However, if you have a mechanical eye, good observation and are willing to familiarize yourself with the process, then it can be a good way to pick up a bargain.
If you don't like the car you can usually sell it again and get your money back, even with a profit.
I have bought and sold several cars at auctions with great results and you can too. If you really want to get the lowdown before you start, then I recommend you read my book Motor Auction Profit Secrets. This will prepare you and incidentally also shows you how to profit from this activity as well.
7 Great Tips To Save Money on Car Parts and Maintenance
Taking care of your car maintenance can be very rewarding if done properly so here's a list of seven tips that can help you save money on your car parts and service.
1. A well tuned car can has a fuel consumption from 25% to 33% lower than a poorly tuned car making a tune-up cheaper than driving without it, tuning your car for better performance can save you between $150 and $250 per year.
2. Regardless of the number of miles the manual recommends a oil change and filter change you should change them every 3,000 miles. This is one of the most important factors in your engine's life since it's going to prolong your engine's life and you're going to save on engine car parts. The potential savings are $500 to $3000.
3. Dirty air filter means more gasoline used and reduces the engine's life so you should check it regularly, maybe monthly. The air filter can be cleaned by blowing it with a hose or can be replaced. You can save about $130 per year..
4. Using steel-belted radial tires can increase the number of miles you make per year by up to 10%, saving this way about $130 per year.
5. Most cars, don't work better on premium gas, so, unless your car is pinging or knocking you shouldn't use higher octane gas. If your car doesn't have a high performance engine, using the gas that best suits your car's engine can save you $200 to $400 per year.
6. Having under inflated tires makes your engine burn about 6% more gas so make sure you check your tire pressure regularly.
7. If your tires are improperly balanced the tread on them will be destroyed. In addition, your suspension and shock absorbers can be damaged leading to more expense on car parts and service. Balancing your tires once a year can add thousands of miles to their life.
1. A well tuned car can has a fuel consumption from 25% to 33% lower than a poorly tuned car making a tune-up cheaper than driving without it, tuning your car for better performance can save you between $150 and $250 per year.
2. Regardless of the number of miles the manual recommends a oil change and filter change you should change them every 3,000 miles. This is one of the most important factors in your engine's life since it's going to prolong your engine's life and you're going to save on engine car parts. The potential savings are $500 to $3000.
3. Dirty air filter means more gasoline used and reduces the engine's life so you should check it regularly, maybe monthly. The air filter can be cleaned by blowing it with a hose or can be replaced. You can save about $130 per year..
4. Using steel-belted radial tires can increase the number of miles you make per year by up to 10%, saving this way about $130 per year.
5. Most cars, don't work better on premium gas, so, unless your car is pinging or knocking you shouldn't use higher octane gas. If your car doesn't have a high performance engine, using the gas that best suits your car's engine can save you $200 to $400 per year.
6. Having under inflated tires makes your engine burn about 6% more gas so make sure you check your tire pressure regularly.
7. If your tires are improperly balanced the tread on them will be destroyed. In addition, your suspension and shock absorbers can be damaged leading to more expense on car parts and service. Balancing your tires once a year can add thousands of miles to their life.
3 Secret Tips Before You Buy A Used Car
I have always purchased my cars used. And every single time, I got a great deal because of a few secrets that is easy to do.
These secrets will save you money. And the good news is there is no luck involved.
If you follow these steps you are guaranteed to save lots of money, so please pay attention.
BUYING A USED CAR Power Tip #1 - Check Consumer Reports on the safest cars out there. Looks are one thing, but never ignore safety.
Here's what you do: Go to a reputable car repair shop and ask if you can bring the vehicle by for a look-over.
There is a 99% chance they will say "yes".
While you're there, ask what cars they have to repair most often. Also, ask what the inspection includes, how long it takes, and the price. Always get this information in writing - just to be safe.
Once the vehicle has been inspected, ask the mechanic for a written report with a cost estimate for all necessary repairs.
Be sure the report includes the vehicle's make, model and VIN. If you decide to make an offer to the dealer after approving the inspection, you can use the estimated repair costs to negotiate the price of the vehicle.
Do you see how easy it is?
Are you going to purchase from an individual? If yes, then here is your next tip.
BUYING A USED CAR Power Tip #2
Remember, private sellers generally are not covered by the Used Car Rule and don't have to use the Buyers Guide. However, you can use the Guide's list of an auto's major systems as a shopping tool.
It's simple.
You can ask the seller if you can have the vehicle inspected by your mechanic. If he/she says no... beware. No matter how nice the car appears, something fishy is going on.
Now, a private sale likely will be on an "as is" basis, unless your purchase agreement with the seller specifically states otherwise. If you have a written contract, the seller has to live up to the contract.
The car also may be covered by a manufacturer's warranty or a separately purchased service contract. But that doesn't mean that the warranty and service contract are transferable.
Plus, other limits or costs may apply. Before you buy the car, ask if it's still under warranty or service contract, and review that baby carefully.
Some states will require vehicle sellers to pass a vehicle inspection before a sale is made. That's not always the case, though. To find out what your state requires, contact your state Attorney General's office or a local consumer protection agency.
Hey, it's just a phone call. And it will take less than 5 minutes.
Whether you end up buying a used car from a dealer, a co-worker, or a neighbor, follow these tips to learn as much as you can about the car:
BUYING A USED CAR Power Tip #3
Examine the car carefully yourself using an inspection checklist. You can find a checklist in many of the magazine articles, books and Internet sites that deal with buying a used car.
Once I bought a used car in August, and never thought to test the rear defroster. Guess what? Come November, I found out it didn't work. If you're shopping in the summer, don't forget to check the heater. And if it's cold as ice outside, still turn that air on full blast and make sure it works!
Test drive the car under varied road conditions--on hills, highways, and in stop-and-go traffic.
Ask for the car's maintenance record. If the owner doesn't have copies, contact the dealership or repair shop where most of the work was done. They may share their files with you.
Talk to the previous owner, especially if the present owner is unfamiliar with the car's history.
Have the car inspected by a mechanic you hire.
There you go.
Follow those three "used car buying" tips and you are guaranteed to save a ton of money buying a used car.
These secrets will save you money. And the good news is there is no luck involved.
If you follow these steps you are guaranteed to save lots of money, so please pay attention.
BUYING A USED CAR Power Tip #1 - Check Consumer Reports on the safest cars out there. Looks are one thing, but never ignore safety.
Here's what you do: Go to a reputable car repair shop and ask if you can bring the vehicle by for a look-over.
There is a 99% chance they will say "yes".
While you're there, ask what cars they have to repair most often. Also, ask what the inspection includes, how long it takes, and the price. Always get this information in writing - just to be safe.
Once the vehicle has been inspected, ask the mechanic for a written report with a cost estimate for all necessary repairs.
Be sure the report includes the vehicle's make, model and VIN. If you decide to make an offer to the dealer after approving the inspection, you can use the estimated repair costs to negotiate the price of the vehicle.
Do you see how easy it is?
Are you going to purchase from an individual? If yes, then here is your next tip.
BUYING A USED CAR Power Tip #2
Remember, private sellers generally are not covered by the Used Car Rule and don't have to use the Buyers Guide. However, you can use the Guide's list of an auto's major systems as a shopping tool.
It's simple.
You can ask the seller if you can have the vehicle inspected by your mechanic. If he/she says no... beware. No matter how nice the car appears, something fishy is going on.
Now, a private sale likely will be on an "as is" basis, unless your purchase agreement with the seller specifically states otherwise. If you have a written contract, the seller has to live up to the contract.
The car also may be covered by a manufacturer's warranty or a separately purchased service contract. But that doesn't mean that the warranty and service contract are transferable.
Plus, other limits or costs may apply. Before you buy the car, ask if it's still under warranty or service contract, and review that baby carefully.
Some states will require vehicle sellers to pass a vehicle inspection before a sale is made. That's not always the case, though. To find out what your state requires, contact your state Attorney General's office or a local consumer protection agency.
Hey, it's just a phone call. And it will take less than 5 minutes.
Whether you end up buying a used car from a dealer, a co-worker, or a neighbor, follow these tips to learn as much as you can about the car:
BUYING A USED CAR Power Tip #3
Examine the car carefully yourself using an inspection checklist. You can find a checklist in many of the magazine articles, books and Internet sites that deal with buying a used car.
Once I bought a used car in August, and never thought to test the rear defroster. Guess what? Come November, I found out it didn't work. If you're shopping in the summer, don't forget to check the heater. And if it's cold as ice outside, still turn that air on full blast and make sure it works!
Test drive the car under varied road conditions--on hills, highways, and in stop-and-go traffic.
Ask for the car's maintenance record. If the owner doesn't have copies, contact the dealership or repair shop where most of the work was done. They may share their files with you.
Talk to the previous owner, especially if the present owner is unfamiliar with the car's history.
Have the car inspected by a mechanic you hire.
There you go.
Follow those three "used car buying" tips and you are guaranteed to save a ton of money buying a used car.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Imagination - Harnessing the Power of Visualization to Fulfill your Destiny
What is it about imagination that makes the most simple of things a beautiful vision? One can only assume that some of history’s greatest artists like daVinci must've been filled with an incredible imagination to be able to conceive and complete some of the world’s finest pieces of art. The key to his vision...or ultimate vision, was the final masterpiece which he created. But each one of his works began in his mind, and that is the key to harnessing the power of visualization to manifest one’s true destiny.
Perhaps we’re not all artists, authors, or celebrities, but we all share one common bond -- we all imagine and aspire to be greater and want to achieve greatness in this lifetime. Achieving greatness begins with imagination, and following through on the visualizations that we create within our minds.
Allow your imagination to become your guiding light toward your destiny. Explore the many windows of your mind to define and form the vision that you want to realize in your life. When you have found what it is you are truly seeking, paint your plane of view with the many objects of your heart's desires. For some, the conceived vision may be a new job, a home, a relationship, or maybe even becoming the president of the United States -- whatever that vision is, you must imagine it, believe it, and follow through on it to fulfill your destiny.
Manifesting the power of the mind is how all great ideas and goals have been accomplished throughout the history of mankind. Become your own da Vinci by putting your imagination to work for you. Because turning thoughts into milestones, and milestones into reality is the power of visualization at work.
Perhaps we’re not all artists, authors, or celebrities, but we all share one common bond -- we all imagine and aspire to be greater and want to achieve greatness in this lifetime. Achieving greatness begins with imagination, and following through on the visualizations that we create within our minds.
Allow your imagination to become your guiding light toward your destiny. Explore the many windows of your mind to define and form the vision that you want to realize in your life. When you have found what it is you are truly seeking, paint your plane of view with the many objects of your heart's desires. For some, the conceived vision may be a new job, a home, a relationship, or maybe even becoming the president of the United States -- whatever that vision is, you must imagine it, believe it, and follow through on it to fulfill your destiny.
Manifesting the power of the mind is how all great ideas and goals have been accomplished throughout the history of mankind. Become your own da Vinci by putting your imagination to work for you. Because turning thoughts into milestones, and milestones into reality is the power of visualization at work.
The Power of Oneness
I have always maintained that for Radical Forgiveness to work, it is not necessary to believe in God or to be religious in any way. I believe we have a faculty of mind which I refer to as our Spiritual Intelligence that operates independent of any belief system we might have about God or anything else for that matter. The pious and the atheistic both have Spiritual Intelligence in equal measure.
Our Spiritual Intelligence is the part of us that is connected, not to our mortal Ego through which both our mental intelligence and emotional intelligence operate, but directly to our immortal I AM Self. That being so, the belief systems which exist in our ego mind are irrelevant. Because we have Spiritual Intelligence, we are already connected to Universal Intelligence, therefore we are powerful spiritual beings no matter what we believe.
Note: This is how I tend to explain how Radical Forgiveness works, but even this type of mental construct is not necessary. I am human so I have fun creating 'stories' to try to explain the unexplainable. However, all we really need to know is that it works. Our experience is enough.
The source of the power then, comes not from ‘out there’ or from a Deity or Divine being, but from within you. Your power lies in your own innate Spiritual Intelligence that knows the truth of who you are, understands how the Universe really works at the quantum level and is able to shape reality through moving energy. YOU are the source of your own power — you just don’t know it. That's because Spiritual Intelligence is operating mostly below the level of awareness.
However, as we become more spiritually aware, we can begin to use our Spiritual Intelligence with conscious intent. It is here that the tools of Radical Forgiveness provide some necessary assistance. They help us to communicate with our Spiritual Intelligence. When we use the tools, I think we are engaging in what I call 'secular prayer.' They help us bridge the gap between our old ego-driven ways of thinking, to a consciousness based in trust, love and surrender. We need the kind of help that the Radical Forgiveness technology provides because, quite honestly, we are not adequate to that shift yet.
So I don’t argue with the idea that God is the source of one’s power to forgive, or to manifest for that matter. I would simply qualify it by asserting that YOU are God and therefore the source of your power. Or as the Unity Minister, Jack Boland, once expressed it, "You are a little bit of God Stuff."
But there is another dimension to this yet. I believe that Spiritual Intelligence is a shared intelligence. It is the intelligence of Oneness. We are all part of it which means that when we use the tools of Radical Forgiveness, we are working with the collective. The power that I am alluding to then is the power of Oneness. We're all in this together. When I forgive you, I forgive everybody, including myself. Now that's power!
Our Spiritual Intelligence is the part of us that is connected, not to our mortal Ego through which both our mental intelligence and emotional intelligence operate, but directly to our immortal I AM Self. That being so, the belief systems which exist in our ego mind are irrelevant. Because we have Spiritual Intelligence, we are already connected to Universal Intelligence, therefore we are powerful spiritual beings no matter what we believe.
Note: This is how I tend to explain how Radical Forgiveness works, but even this type of mental construct is not necessary. I am human so I have fun creating 'stories' to try to explain the unexplainable. However, all we really need to know is that it works. Our experience is enough.
The source of the power then, comes not from ‘out there’ or from a Deity or Divine being, but from within you. Your power lies in your own innate Spiritual Intelligence that knows the truth of who you are, understands how the Universe really works at the quantum level and is able to shape reality through moving energy. YOU are the source of your own power — you just don’t know it. That's because Spiritual Intelligence is operating mostly below the level of awareness.
However, as we become more spiritually aware, we can begin to use our Spiritual Intelligence with conscious intent. It is here that the tools of Radical Forgiveness provide some necessary assistance. They help us to communicate with our Spiritual Intelligence. When we use the tools, I think we are engaging in what I call 'secular prayer.' They help us bridge the gap between our old ego-driven ways of thinking, to a consciousness based in trust, love and surrender. We need the kind of help that the Radical Forgiveness technology provides because, quite honestly, we are not adequate to that shift yet.
So I don’t argue with the idea that God is the source of one’s power to forgive, or to manifest for that matter. I would simply qualify it by asserting that YOU are God and therefore the source of your power. Or as the Unity Minister, Jack Boland, once expressed it, "You are a little bit of God Stuff."
But there is another dimension to this yet. I believe that Spiritual Intelligence is a shared intelligence. It is the intelligence of Oneness. We are all part of it which means that when we use the tools of Radical Forgiveness, we are working with the collective. The power that I am alluding to then is the power of Oneness. We're all in this together. When I forgive you, I forgive everybody, including myself. Now that's power!
What determines the time of our death?
Type of death according to time can be divided as –
Probable death (Apamrutyuyoga)
Death (Mrutyuyoga)
Definite death (Mahamrutyuyoga)
The probability of preventing Probable death is 70-100%. The probability of preventing Death is 30-70%. There is not chance to prevent definite death.
Probable death generally occurs in a person’s life only once and the time period lasts for 2 weeks. Death also occurs once and it lasts for 1 week. Definite death occurs only once in a persons’ life and it’s time is decided upto final second.
Ghosts and people can influence probable death and death but they cannot influence definite death.
Probable death can be avoided by doing certain rituals as prescribed by scriptures. Death can be avoided by doing spiritual practice as per six basic principles. Definite death cannot be avoided.
The following factors influence whether a person can die during his/her pre-destined ‘probable death’ (apamrutyuyoga) or the ‘death’ (mrutyuyoga) time period
Give-and-take account: The amount of give-and-take account pending with people on Earth that can be settled if the person does not die. The give-and-take account that is remaining in a person’s destiny for their current life is also an important factor that decides whether they die before ‘definite death’ stage.
Departed ancestors and ghosts: Influence of departed ancestors and ghosts sometimes may bring about early death. Read about why our departed ancestors can create problems in our lives.
Spiritual practice: The type and intensity of spiritual practice helps to let a person avoid early death i.e. before mahaamrutyuyoga.
When the stage of definite death (mahaamrutyuyoga) arrives, it means that a person has completed his/her destiny for the current lifetime on the Earth plane of existence.
Probable death (Apamrutyuyoga)
Death (Mrutyuyoga)
Definite death (Mahamrutyuyoga)
The probability of preventing Probable death is 70-100%. The probability of preventing Death is 30-70%. There is not chance to prevent definite death.
Probable death generally occurs in a person’s life only once and the time period lasts for 2 weeks. Death also occurs once and it lasts for 1 week. Definite death occurs only once in a persons’ life and it’s time is decided upto final second.
Ghosts and people can influence probable death and death but they cannot influence definite death.
Probable death can be avoided by doing certain rituals as prescribed by scriptures. Death can be avoided by doing spiritual practice as per six basic principles. Definite death cannot be avoided.
The following factors influence whether a person can die during his/her pre-destined ‘probable death’ (apamrutyuyoga) or the ‘death’ (mrutyuyoga) time period
Give-and-take account: The amount of give-and-take account pending with people on Earth that can be settled if the person does not die. The give-and-take account that is remaining in a person’s destiny for their current life is also an important factor that decides whether they die before ‘definite death’ stage.
Departed ancestors and ghosts: Influence of departed ancestors and ghosts sometimes may bring about early death. Read about why our departed ancestors can create problems in our lives.
Spiritual practice: The type and intensity of spiritual practice helps to let a person avoid early death i.e. before mahaamrutyuyoga.
When the stage of definite death (mahaamrutyuyoga) arrives, it means that a person has completed his/her destiny for the current lifetime on the Earth plane of existence.
3 Tips to Become a Winner in Life
“You cannot fix what is wrong on the outside if you do not know how to fix what is wrong on the inside. When my students learned how to heal from their past emotions, everything started to flow more fluidly --they were able to take charge over their story and direct its course; and you will be able to achieve that result too!”
In addition to using a number of personal growth tools like the Manifestation Method, I want you to focus on the above statement. One of the many reasons why individuals seemingly fail in life is not because they've "failed;" but because they've become so used to negative emotions that they believe it's perfectly normal to live in a negative state of mind. This could not be further from the truth. You have a destiny to fulfill, and the Universal flow of energy wants to put you in perfect alignment with what you are supposed to accomplish in life -- but you can only fulfill your life purpose if you're emotionally, mentally, and spiritually prepared to accept your rightful place in the universe. I'm routing for your success, so I'm offering you three tips that can help you to succeed and become a winner in life:
1. Set your goals. I can't stress this enough. Whatever it is you're trying to reach in life, I want you to visualize it and see it through. For instance, a friend of mine takes daily walks. Though the distance seems great from afar, she sees the water tower as her destination point. The whole time she is walking, she paces herself and keeps her eye on the water tower. By keeping her eye on her destination point, she doesn't succumb to the "oh, it's too far away," mindset. She focuses in on it, and she keeps going until she's made it there. That's the same way you need to view and achieve your goal. It may not be directly affront of you, but it does exist. This means that the potential for success is clearly in view; but you must keep your eye on the ball before you can reach it.
2. Use your intuition. You must distinguish your personal and professional life to jumpstart your future. If you know what your goals are in both planes of view, you can establish a level playing field to create momentum and acquire real substance in your life. Make sure you use your intuition to discover what it is you really want to attain in life -- because when you do, you're able to toss out the junk thoughts and maneuver your way toward the best plan of action to achieve your goals. This means you need to meditate on your life as a whole. It's equally important to meditate on your relationship with yourself first. By getting in touch and falling in love with your intuitive soul, you create a mutual flow of positive energy that you not only emit but are able to receive. The more you meditate, the more powerful your inner wisdom becomes. This enables you to clear the clutter from your mind and channel harmony back into your life.
3. Turn walls into stepping stones. Personal growth and professional growth come at a cost. That cost is comprised of the life lessons we are sometimes forced to learn...even if we may not always agree with them at the time. To become a winner in life, you must use every angle to your advantage. And yes, that means you need to look at every thing that comes your way as an opportunity. Challenges are presented to us so that we can learn and grow. We may not immediately view these proverbial walls or roadblocks as openings for success; however, hindsight is always 20/20, and we often discover that these challenges are in fact ways to advance and become a winner in life.
Every man and woman has the opportunity to create success and become a winner in life. How you proceed in life is just as important as waking up every morning. Every day, when you arise, I want you to say aloud: "I am a winner and success becomes me." When you meditate daily on becoming a winner, you start to think, speak, and act like one. It's really not rocket science, but it does require commitment from you. Are you dedicated enough to become a winner in your life?
In addition to using a number of personal growth tools like the Manifestation Method, I want you to focus on the above statement. One of the many reasons why individuals seemingly fail in life is not because they've "failed;" but because they've become so used to negative emotions that they believe it's perfectly normal to live in a negative state of mind. This could not be further from the truth. You have a destiny to fulfill, and the Universal flow of energy wants to put you in perfect alignment with what you are supposed to accomplish in life -- but you can only fulfill your life purpose if you're emotionally, mentally, and spiritually prepared to accept your rightful place in the universe. I'm routing for your success, so I'm offering you three tips that can help you to succeed and become a winner in life:
1. Set your goals. I can't stress this enough. Whatever it is you're trying to reach in life, I want you to visualize it and see it through. For instance, a friend of mine takes daily walks. Though the distance seems great from afar, she sees the water tower as her destination point. The whole time she is walking, she paces herself and keeps her eye on the water tower. By keeping her eye on her destination point, she doesn't succumb to the "oh, it's too far away," mindset. She focuses in on it, and she keeps going until she's made it there. That's the same way you need to view and achieve your goal. It may not be directly affront of you, but it does exist. This means that the potential for success is clearly in view; but you must keep your eye on the ball before you can reach it.
2. Use your intuition. You must distinguish your personal and professional life to jumpstart your future. If you know what your goals are in both planes of view, you can establish a level playing field to create momentum and acquire real substance in your life. Make sure you use your intuition to discover what it is you really want to attain in life -- because when you do, you're able to toss out the junk thoughts and maneuver your way toward the best plan of action to achieve your goals. This means you need to meditate on your life as a whole. It's equally important to meditate on your relationship with yourself first. By getting in touch and falling in love with your intuitive soul, you create a mutual flow of positive energy that you not only emit but are able to receive. The more you meditate, the more powerful your inner wisdom becomes. This enables you to clear the clutter from your mind and channel harmony back into your life.
3. Turn walls into stepping stones. Personal growth and professional growth come at a cost. That cost is comprised of the life lessons we are sometimes forced to learn...even if we may not always agree with them at the time. To become a winner in life, you must use every angle to your advantage. And yes, that means you need to look at every thing that comes your way as an opportunity. Challenges are presented to us so that we can learn and grow. We may not immediately view these proverbial walls or roadblocks as openings for success; however, hindsight is always 20/20, and we often discover that these challenges are in fact ways to advance and become a winner in life.
Every man and woman has the opportunity to create success and become a winner in life. How you proceed in life is just as important as waking up every morning. Every day, when you arise, I want you to say aloud: "I am a winner and success becomes me." When you meditate daily on becoming a winner, you start to think, speak, and act like one. It's really not rocket science, but it does require commitment from you. Are you dedicated enough to become a winner in your life?
Monday, June 22, 2009
The 10 Greatest Personal Development Tools
1.Choices
2.Helping Others
3.Believing in Yourself
4.Changing Your Self Talk
5.Thoughts – Feelings – Actions – Results - Beliefs
6.The Power of Attitude
7.Finding Your Focus
8.Setting Great Goals
9.Taking Control of Your Time
10.Taking Action
Choices
It’s the little choices that count Each day we make hundreds of little choices that we don’t even think about Who you spend your time with What and how much your eat What time you wake up in the morning What you watch on TV How well you listen to others How you think about yourself How often you judge, criticize or complain What you think about
Unconscious Choices vs. Conscious Choices; Our brains are made to create programs of the things that we do regularly. These programs make it possible to make decisions easier and to not have to think about every detail of everything we do. But what happens is these programs take over and we never even stop to think if we have the right programs. Have you ever driven to work and realize that you have no idea how you got there? You were on auto pilot.
This happens to us many times each day and we don’t even realize it.
You get to make new choices about ANYTHING you want everyday You decide, do you want to go through your day aware and in control of your choices or let old patterns and experiences choose for you?
Helping Others
If you want to feel fulfilled and live your life with purpose then help others When you help improve the lives of others You add purpose and value to your life You increase your self esteem You are teaching by example You feel increased energy and success Don’t wait to help others until you feel that you are where you think you should be.
Believing in Yourself
Without self belief we hesitate Have no vision or dream Without a dream there is no plan Without a plan there is no accomplishment With self belief we don’t hesitate We have confidence in the outcome We can see a future filled with unlimited potential We find fulfillment and see the best in ourselves True self belief is not the same as arrogance We get self belief in two ways As a child from our parents and others Through the repeated experience of small successes
You can achieve greater self belief if you choose to Ways you can improve self belief Create new programs through self-talk Acknowledgement Journal Schedule small tasks that you have been putting off and do them Ignore the negative opinions of others Surround yourself with those who support and believe in you Instant self belief exercise Stop, clear your mind Picture of yourself at your absolute best Repeat a few statements that works for you Example would be “I believe in myself! I can do this and I will do this! Nothing can stop me from achieving my dreams! I believe in myself!” When you repeat this statement with enthusiasm you literally deliver a barrage of chemicals to your unsuspecting brain that will put you into a high energy mode The choice to believe in yourself is completely up to you. You get to believe in yourself anytime you want to.
Changing Your Self Talk
This is the single most powerful tool that there is. This one thing can change your life as it changed mine We live with harmful negative programs that can literally be reprogrammed This is more than hope it is a solution Remember GIGO Behavioral Scientists now know that what we store in our minds like programs are acted upon as though they are true. Even if they are false Everything you have heard, seen, done or experienced is permanently stored in your subconscious mind, word for word Your brain does not know the difference between true and false or positive and negative. It just stores and acts upon the repeated information it receives So what type of information has your brain received that you have repeated to yourself and now believe and act upon as fact?
It’s been estimated that by the time we are 18 years old we have received more than 148,000 negative messages Behavioral researchers have found that as much as 77% of all programs that we receive are negative, counterproductive, false and work against us. We receive these messages from all around us Parents TV Teachers Movies Peers Magazines Siblings Books…
Everything about you is effected by your repeated messages or programs Attitudes, skills, career, relationships, creativity, success, communication, income and anything else you can think of Our parents did the best with what they had – they unknowingly gave us the same type of programs that they received Our amazing brains Chemical and electrical processes in our brains create pathways The pathways that are the strongest are those that have been repeated The key to programming is repetition What are you choosing to repeat in your mind?
Monitor Your Self-Talk Listen to everything that you say to yourself and others Be very aware of your thoughts Keep a journal for 1 week of the types of thoughts that you notice Edit Your Thoughts and Your Words You have the ability to choose your thoughts With practice you can stop yourself the moment before you think or say anything negative You won’t change your old programs automatically it takes repetition
It took many years to create the old programs but can take just months to reprogram them Immediately replace the negative thought with a positive one Listen to Positive Self-Talk You can do this through repeating affirmations daily Listen to a recording of yourself Listen to professionally recorded CD’s
Thoughts – Feelings – Actions – Results - Beliefs/Being
This concept expands upon controlling our self-talk More than any other personal development concept if you truly understand this you will live a happier more fulfilling life Our thoughts create our feelings Our feelings effect our actions Our actions effect our results Our results create our beliefs Our beliefs then create our thoughts and the cycle continues This concept is truly life changing because if you get this you will begin to monitor and change your thoughts which will effect everything else
Before you can transform negative thoughts and feelings, you need to become aware of them, so here’s a list of beliefs that may need updating!
Step 1
• When under pressure I ……………………….……………………….
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I often feel guilty about ……………………………………………………….
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• When ………………………. happens I stress out and feel like ……………………….
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• My Achilles’ heel (greatest weakness) is ……………………….
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I am always trying to stop ……………………..…………. from happening.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• When the unexpected happens I ……………………………………………………….
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I always try to ……………………………………………………….
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• The biggest obstacle that stops me loving and approving of
myself is ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………
• What drives most of my behavior is …………………………………………….
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I am afraid of ……………………………………………………….
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I seek my ……………’s approval (always / mostly / usually /
occasionally)……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• My most frequent negative / uncomfortable emotion is feeling
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• The feeling I dislike the most is ……………………….
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I need to learn to ……………………………………………………….
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
Congratulations – that took courage!
Step 2
Now that you have identified your false beliefs, go back and re-do the exercise
Write how you would like to be. For example:
When under pressure I … panic
revised to
When under pressure I … think about the situation calmly and ask for support.
The Power of Attitude
Your attitude determines how well your day is going Your attitude is choosing how well your life is working You choose your attitude Some people are in control of their lives – while others are controlled by their lives It’s more than wearing rose colored glasses Attitude is the perspective from which you view your life. It’s how you view yourself and others and what’s happening around you in any given moment. Your attitude is the role that you choose to play each day Your attitude influences every aspect of your life Beliefs Energy Stress Emotions Thoughts Your attitude will determine how you feel about and act upon the tools that you learn in this seminar Protect your positive attitude from the negative energies of others
Be aware Check in with yourself and ask “How is my attitude?” Tell yourself “I’m going to make this a great day!” This doesn’t mean you ignore your problems, you just choose to deal with them in a more positive way Own your attitude Never let anyone determine your attitude You choose from moment to moment and in each situation who you want to be Strengthen your attitude The more you are aware of and own your attitude the more you will be in control and better able to choose your attitude in the moment It’s like building a muscle, the more you use it the better.
Finding Your Focus
A clear focus of what you want creates momentum and energy It’s O.K. a lot of very bright people don’t know what they want How clear is your picture? Blurry Some idea but too general Clear and focused The more time you spend on figuring out what you want the more clarity and focus you will have Knowing what you want makes it easy to set goals Without clarity you don’t really have a target. There is no real sense of direction and no driving force behind your actions. In order to succeed you need to ask yourself some questions about what you want? When you visualize it’s important to include as much detail as possible. Be sure to include as many of your senses as possible: It’s not enough to just have an idea of what you want or to say that you know what you want. You need to take the time to visualize, in detail, what your perfect life will look like and then write it down. It’s very important in order for your subconscious mind to absorb your vision that you write it down several times and read it daily. By writing it all down and reading it daily your subconscious will start to see it as fact and this will help to align you with your perfect life. The Law of Attraction will work in your favor if you see it and feel it with emotion.
Setting Great Goals
Now that you know what you want it’s time to set up a plan. “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail” Did you know that less than 3% of people actually set goals in a structured manner? “Without goals we live life by chance, instead of by choice” It’s important to set both long term and short term goals. Long term goals are your vision and short terms goals give you the path to actually get there. Write out the goal Start with, “My goal is to. . . ” Set the date that you will begin and complete the goal. You will be reviewing the process regularly . Don’t worry you can adjust the date if necessary Write out what the obstacles are to reaching your goal? (1 – 3 obstacles) This is a crucial part of achieving goals. You must look ahead to see what might stand in your way. Write out the action steps to overcome the obstacles. Do not skip this step. It is often overlooked and the reason that many people never reach their goals. Decide on a reward How will you reward yourself when you achieve your goals. Make it proportionate to the goal. Review your goal daily The more you review it the more real it will be. Each morning and evening is best. Reward Yourself for accomplishments along the way This will be your motivation along the way so don’t skip it. It could be a pat on the back or an afternoon off or a nice dinner, a massage …
“Goals are Dreams with Wings”
Taking Control of Your Time
Your time is not as out of your control as you may think The most successful people all take control of their own time The four steps to controlling your time: Be aware of what you do with your time. Develop time awareness by asking yourself, each morning as you get ready for your day, “How can I make the best use of my time today?” Each night before going to sleep ask yourself, “What did I do with my time today?” Make time to plan your time Keep a daily, weekly and monthly schedule In less than 5 or 10 minutes a day you can plan your time and save many minutes or even hours Do what is important to you and actively avoid what is not Avoid time wasters whenever possible Take time for yourself and the things that you enjoy You can add an extra 20 – 40 hours to your month, every month That’s a half a work week Find time in your day that is wasted on things like watching TV, surfing the net, emails… Skip the news at night and get up an hour earlier
Taking Action
Understand why you don’t take action when you know you should When you understand what is stopping you, you can find a solution There are 5 primary reasons that people don’t take action You don’t know what to do Who does knows what to do? How can you find out what to do? You think that it’s too difficult Is it really difficult or does it just take effort? Have other people done it? Then so can you! You haven’t committed to take action Understanding the motivation behind taking action is key Why do you want to take action? What will that give you? You never really wanted to do it in the first place Go through your to do list and remove or delegate anything that you don’t really want to do. If it’s something that you HAVE to do but don’t want to then keep it on the list but write down the benefits of getting it done. Recommit Stop wasting energy worrying about the things that you don’t want to do. You fear doing things that are outside of our comfort zone Fear is a part of our human survival instinct When we fear doing something we find all kinds of other things to do first The only way to overcome the fear is to have courage and do it, then repeat it
Your entire future depends on what you dream and what you do next Make the choice to live your best life Use your mind, use your heart cherish the moments that make up your life
Choose Well
Serve Others
Believe in Yourself
Change Your Self Talk
Thoughts – Feelings – Actions – Results - Beliefs/Being
Choose Your Attitude
Find Your Focus
Set Great Goals
Take Control of Your Time
Take Action
Enjoy the Journey…
2.Helping Others
3.Believing in Yourself
4.Changing Your Self Talk
5.Thoughts – Feelings – Actions – Results - Beliefs
6.The Power of Attitude
7.Finding Your Focus
8.Setting Great Goals
9.Taking Control of Your Time
10.Taking Action
Choices
It’s the little choices that count Each day we make hundreds of little choices that we don’t even think about Who you spend your time with What and how much your eat What time you wake up in the morning What you watch on TV How well you listen to others How you think about yourself How often you judge, criticize or complain What you think about
Unconscious Choices vs. Conscious Choices; Our brains are made to create programs of the things that we do regularly. These programs make it possible to make decisions easier and to not have to think about every detail of everything we do. But what happens is these programs take over and we never even stop to think if we have the right programs. Have you ever driven to work and realize that you have no idea how you got there? You were on auto pilot.
This happens to us many times each day and we don’t even realize it.
You get to make new choices about ANYTHING you want everyday You decide, do you want to go through your day aware and in control of your choices or let old patterns and experiences choose for you?
Helping Others
If you want to feel fulfilled and live your life with purpose then help others When you help improve the lives of others You add purpose and value to your life You increase your self esteem You are teaching by example You feel increased energy and success Don’t wait to help others until you feel that you are where you think you should be.
Believing in Yourself
Without self belief we hesitate Have no vision or dream Without a dream there is no plan Without a plan there is no accomplishment With self belief we don’t hesitate We have confidence in the outcome We can see a future filled with unlimited potential We find fulfillment and see the best in ourselves True self belief is not the same as arrogance We get self belief in two ways As a child from our parents and others Through the repeated experience of small successes
You can achieve greater self belief if you choose to Ways you can improve self belief Create new programs through self-talk Acknowledgement Journal Schedule small tasks that you have been putting off and do them Ignore the negative opinions of others Surround yourself with those who support and believe in you Instant self belief exercise Stop, clear your mind Picture of yourself at your absolute best Repeat a few statements that works for you Example would be “I believe in myself! I can do this and I will do this! Nothing can stop me from achieving my dreams! I believe in myself!” When you repeat this statement with enthusiasm you literally deliver a barrage of chemicals to your unsuspecting brain that will put you into a high energy mode The choice to believe in yourself is completely up to you. You get to believe in yourself anytime you want to.
Changing Your Self Talk
This is the single most powerful tool that there is. This one thing can change your life as it changed mine We live with harmful negative programs that can literally be reprogrammed This is more than hope it is a solution Remember GIGO Behavioral Scientists now know that what we store in our minds like programs are acted upon as though they are true. Even if they are false Everything you have heard, seen, done or experienced is permanently stored in your subconscious mind, word for word Your brain does not know the difference between true and false or positive and negative. It just stores and acts upon the repeated information it receives So what type of information has your brain received that you have repeated to yourself and now believe and act upon as fact?
It’s been estimated that by the time we are 18 years old we have received more than 148,000 negative messages Behavioral researchers have found that as much as 77% of all programs that we receive are negative, counterproductive, false and work against us. We receive these messages from all around us Parents TV Teachers Movies Peers Magazines Siblings Books…
Everything about you is effected by your repeated messages or programs Attitudes, skills, career, relationships, creativity, success, communication, income and anything else you can think of Our parents did the best with what they had – they unknowingly gave us the same type of programs that they received Our amazing brains Chemical and electrical processes in our brains create pathways The pathways that are the strongest are those that have been repeated The key to programming is repetition What are you choosing to repeat in your mind?
Monitor Your Self-Talk Listen to everything that you say to yourself and others Be very aware of your thoughts Keep a journal for 1 week of the types of thoughts that you notice Edit Your Thoughts and Your Words You have the ability to choose your thoughts With practice you can stop yourself the moment before you think or say anything negative You won’t change your old programs automatically it takes repetition
It took many years to create the old programs but can take just months to reprogram them Immediately replace the negative thought with a positive one Listen to Positive Self-Talk You can do this through repeating affirmations daily Listen to a recording of yourself Listen to professionally recorded CD’s
Thoughts – Feelings – Actions – Results - Beliefs/Being
This concept expands upon controlling our self-talk More than any other personal development concept if you truly understand this you will live a happier more fulfilling life Our thoughts create our feelings Our feelings effect our actions Our actions effect our results Our results create our beliefs Our beliefs then create our thoughts and the cycle continues This concept is truly life changing because if you get this you will begin to monitor and change your thoughts which will effect everything else
Before you can transform negative thoughts and feelings, you need to become aware of them, so here’s a list of beliefs that may need updating!
Step 1
• When under pressure I ……………………….……………………….
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• I often feel guilty about ……………………………………………………….
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• When ………………………. happens I stress out and feel like ……………………….
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• My Achilles’ heel (greatest weakness) is ……………………….
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• I am always trying to stop ……………………..…………. from happening.
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• When the unexpected happens I ……………………………………………………….
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• I always try to ……………………………………………………….
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• The biggest obstacle that stops me loving and approving of
myself is ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………
• What drives most of my behavior is …………………………………………….
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• I am afraid of ……………………………………………………….
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• I seek my ……………’s approval (always / mostly / usually /
occasionally)……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
• My most frequent negative / uncomfortable emotion is feeling
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• The feeling I dislike the most is ……………………….
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• I need to learn to ……………………………………………………….
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Congratulations – that took courage!
Step 2
Now that you have identified your false beliefs, go back and re-do the exercise
Write how you would like to be. For example:
When under pressure I … panic
revised to
When under pressure I … think about the situation calmly and ask for support.
The Power of Attitude
Your attitude determines how well your day is going Your attitude is choosing how well your life is working You choose your attitude Some people are in control of their lives – while others are controlled by their lives It’s more than wearing rose colored glasses Attitude is the perspective from which you view your life. It’s how you view yourself and others and what’s happening around you in any given moment. Your attitude is the role that you choose to play each day Your attitude influences every aspect of your life Beliefs Energy Stress Emotions Thoughts Your attitude will determine how you feel about and act upon the tools that you learn in this seminar Protect your positive attitude from the negative energies of others
Be aware Check in with yourself and ask “How is my attitude?” Tell yourself “I’m going to make this a great day!” This doesn’t mean you ignore your problems, you just choose to deal with them in a more positive way Own your attitude Never let anyone determine your attitude You choose from moment to moment and in each situation who you want to be Strengthen your attitude The more you are aware of and own your attitude the more you will be in control and better able to choose your attitude in the moment It’s like building a muscle, the more you use it the better.
Finding Your Focus
A clear focus of what you want creates momentum and energy It’s O.K. a lot of very bright people don’t know what they want How clear is your picture? Blurry Some idea but too general Clear and focused The more time you spend on figuring out what you want the more clarity and focus you will have Knowing what you want makes it easy to set goals Without clarity you don’t really have a target. There is no real sense of direction and no driving force behind your actions. In order to succeed you need to ask yourself some questions about what you want? When you visualize it’s important to include as much detail as possible. Be sure to include as many of your senses as possible: It’s not enough to just have an idea of what you want or to say that you know what you want. You need to take the time to visualize, in detail, what your perfect life will look like and then write it down. It’s very important in order for your subconscious mind to absorb your vision that you write it down several times and read it daily. By writing it all down and reading it daily your subconscious will start to see it as fact and this will help to align you with your perfect life. The Law of Attraction will work in your favor if you see it and feel it with emotion.
Setting Great Goals
Now that you know what you want it’s time to set up a plan. “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail” Did you know that less than 3% of people actually set goals in a structured manner? “Without goals we live life by chance, instead of by choice” It’s important to set both long term and short term goals. Long term goals are your vision and short terms goals give you the path to actually get there. Write out the goal Start with, “My goal is to. . . ” Set the date that you will begin and complete the goal. You will be reviewing the process regularly . Don’t worry you can adjust the date if necessary Write out what the obstacles are to reaching your goal? (1 – 3 obstacles) This is a crucial part of achieving goals. You must look ahead to see what might stand in your way. Write out the action steps to overcome the obstacles. Do not skip this step. It is often overlooked and the reason that many people never reach their goals. Decide on a reward How will you reward yourself when you achieve your goals. Make it proportionate to the goal. Review your goal daily The more you review it the more real it will be. Each morning and evening is best. Reward Yourself for accomplishments along the way This will be your motivation along the way so don’t skip it. It could be a pat on the back or an afternoon off or a nice dinner, a massage …
“Goals are Dreams with Wings”
Taking Control of Your Time
Your time is not as out of your control as you may think The most successful people all take control of their own time The four steps to controlling your time: Be aware of what you do with your time. Develop time awareness by asking yourself, each morning as you get ready for your day, “How can I make the best use of my time today?” Each night before going to sleep ask yourself, “What did I do with my time today?” Make time to plan your time Keep a daily, weekly and monthly schedule In less than 5 or 10 minutes a day you can plan your time and save many minutes or even hours Do what is important to you and actively avoid what is not Avoid time wasters whenever possible Take time for yourself and the things that you enjoy You can add an extra 20 – 40 hours to your month, every month That’s a half a work week Find time in your day that is wasted on things like watching TV, surfing the net, emails… Skip the news at night and get up an hour earlier
Taking Action
Understand why you don’t take action when you know you should When you understand what is stopping you, you can find a solution There are 5 primary reasons that people don’t take action You don’t know what to do Who does knows what to do? How can you find out what to do? You think that it’s too difficult Is it really difficult or does it just take effort? Have other people done it? Then so can you! You haven’t committed to take action Understanding the motivation behind taking action is key Why do you want to take action? What will that give you? You never really wanted to do it in the first place Go through your to do list and remove or delegate anything that you don’t really want to do. If it’s something that you HAVE to do but don’t want to then keep it on the list but write down the benefits of getting it done. Recommit Stop wasting energy worrying about the things that you don’t want to do. You fear doing things that are outside of our comfort zone Fear is a part of our human survival instinct When we fear doing something we find all kinds of other things to do first The only way to overcome the fear is to have courage and do it, then repeat it
Your entire future depends on what you dream and what you do next Make the choice to live your best life Use your mind, use your heart cherish the moments that make up your life
Choose Well
Serve Others
Believe in Yourself
Change Your Self Talk
Thoughts – Feelings – Actions – Results - Beliefs/Being
Choose Your Attitude
Find Your Focus
Set Great Goals
Take Control of Your Time
Take Action
Enjoy the Journey…
Magnetism as Natural Growth
Let us understand. You cannot reasonably hope to succeed by merely dreaming about success.
You surely cannot achieve success if you plunge blindly through your career.
You cannot really succeed without possessing some degree of personal magnetism.
When you began reading this article, you certainly possessed a measure of magnetic capacity, either physical or psychic. If you have energetically observed its directions, you have developed both varieties; but, above that, you have also combined them into one living whole, the magnetic personality.
This result has required at least a year of persistent effort. If you have arrived at this point in less time, you should go back and begin where haste first retarded your progress.
Magnetism is a natural growth.
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No matter how great may be your ability to read and understand books, that growth, that law, require time as well as intelligent effort. No matter how poor may be your ability in such respect, that growth is absolutely certain if you put reasonable time and genuine effort into its acquisition.
The giant trees of California were once puny saplings. The slow lapse of time has drawn nature into their mighty hearts. Magnetism can no more be acquired by the mere reading an article, or by hurried practice of its directions, than can these giants of the West be produced in the hot-house culture of a northern summer.
Magnetic growth is naturally slow. Its principles, its methods, and the results of its study, have to be deeply sunk into and absorbed and assimilated by the subjective self before the reaction of magnetism in the objective life can obtain. If you have read these lines correctly, you have learned that magnetic growth cannot be hurried. These statements are placed here because, had they appeared at the beginning of our work, the outlook would have seemed, perhaps, discouraging, but more especially because they would not have been understood. You now understand them because you have toiled, and you can afford to smile at such possible discouragement. You have paid an easy price for magnetic power, for the gains discount the pains.
Magnetism and practical life.
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The faithful observance of these suggestions has developed many surprises during the time occupied. The growth of magnetism involves intense and continuous concentration of thought upon the psychic field, and it is very likely that you may find it necessary to guard against that danger. The method of so guarding is briefly indicated below.
The sole value of magnetism consists in its practical application to everyday affairs. Success-Magnetism is not an accomplishment merely; it is a practical power. When rightly developed and used, it controls the subjective self in the concrete work of the objective. The definition of the goal you have been seeking now appears:
Success-magnetism is personal magnetism intelligently multiplied into actual life.
The first duty of man is practical sanity.
You surely cannot achieve success if you plunge blindly through your career.
You cannot really succeed without possessing some degree of personal magnetism.
When you began reading this article, you certainly possessed a measure of magnetic capacity, either physical or psychic. If you have energetically observed its directions, you have developed both varieties; but, above that, you have also combined them into one living whole, the magnetic personality.
This result has required at least a year of persistent effort. If you have arrived at this point in less time, you should go back and begin where haste first retarded your progress.
Magnetism is a natural growth.
------------------------------
No matter how great may be your ability to read and understand books, that growth, that law, require time as well as intelligent effort. No matter how poor may be your ability in such respect, that growth is absolutely certain if you put reasonable time and genuine effort into its acquisition.
The giant trees of California were once puny saplings. The slow lapse of time has drawn nature into their mighty hearts. Magnetism can no more be acquired by the mere reading an article, or by hurried practice of its directions, than can these giants of the West be produced in the hot-house culture of a northern summer.
Magnetic growth is naturally slow. Its principles, its methods, and the results of its study, have to be deeply sunk into and absorbed and assimilated by the subjective self before the reaction of magnetism in the objective life can obtain. If you have read these lines correctly, you have learned that magnetic growth cannot be hurried. These statements are placed here because, had they appeared at the beginning of our work, the outlook would have seemed, perhaps, discouraging, but more especially because they would not have been understood. You now understand them because you have toiled, and you can afford to smile at such possible discouragement. You have paid an easy price for magnetic power, for the gains discount the pains.
Magnetism and practical life.
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The faithful observance of these suggestions has developed many surprises during the time occupied. The growth of magnetism involves intense and continuous concentration of thought upon the psychic field, and it is very likely that you may find it necessary to guard against that danger. The method of so guarding is briefly indicated below.
The sole value of magnetism consists in its practical application to everyday affairs. Success-Magnetism is not an accomplishment merely; it is a practical power. When rightly developed and used, it controls the subjective self in the concrete work of the objective. The definition of the goal you have been seeking now appears:
Success-magnetism is personal magnetism intelligently multiplied into actual life.
The first duty of man is practical sanity.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Why You Can't Always Trust Your Feelings
When I was in graduate school for psychology, our rallying cry was "Go with you feelings."
When somebody got up in front of class to give a presentation and we were in a rowdy mood that's what we said.
When one of our gang hesitated over a project, whether it were conducting some original research or figuring out how to get a date,
that's what we said.
And when we were in a session with a client, that's what we said, too.
The reason we passionately believed in this idea was because it was quite obvious to us that the cause of most psychological disorders, whether they were the garden variety or the serious ones, were due to emotional suppression.
We equated "feel more" with "be more."
On the surface, this seems correct.
After all, if you want to try something new that will eventually empower you, feeling it more will empower you more.
And, if you want to help someone pull out of a stuck state, feeling it more will flush it out.
Or, if something doesn't feel right and you shouldn't go along with a person or situation, it may be your intuition ringing a loud alarm.
In such cases, it's wise to trust your feelings.
But there is a shadow side to trusting your feelings and going with them.
Let me explain:
This is when you should do something, but you don't feel like doing it. So you don't do it.
You probably want some examples.
You should clean up the kitchen, tidy your desk, or go to bed early because you have a busy day ahead, but you don't feel like it.
The result is that your kitchen becomes a health hazard, your desk the source of your habitual inefficiency, and your late nights, the reason for your low energy and bad moods.
You went with your feelings alright, and had to pay a price for it. Was it wise to trust those feelings?
Now let's dig a little deeper.
Why do we have feelings that we shouldn't trust in the first place? Where do they come from? Is a part of our mind deliberately out to wreck our little world?
The answer to the source of these feeling is the subconscious mind. In particular, past associations of pain associated with the necessary activities.
It's not fun cleaning the kitchen, washing and rinsing dishes, wiping down the counter, putting away dinner, and taking out the trash. It's a lot more fun to watch T.V. So pleasure wins.
It's not fun tidying up your desk, filing away old documents, finding a place to put your calculator, and wondering what to do with all the excessive pens you've collected. It's more fun to fire up your computer and check your email.
It's not fun going to bed early when you feel the need to watch T.V., chat on the phone, or do something else that you consider pleasurable.
Pain, pain, pain.
Why opt for pain, when it can be substituted for pleasure?
It's because the pain you avoid today will only get worse tomorrow.
The 15 minutes it takes to clean the kitchen will one day prevent a 3 hour attempt to create sanity (and sanitation).
The 10 minutes it takes to tidy your desk will one day prevent a frantic search for that overdue bill that you're now paying a late fee on.
The 5 minutes it takes to go to bed will prevent you from dragging through the next day feeling like death warmed over.
Ideally, you can flip the switch and change associations of pain into those of pleasure and make the clean kitchen, and the tidy desk, and the early bedtime sources of pride.
But it does take some work, and you may not feel like it.
When somebody got up in front of class to give a presentation and we were in a rowdy mood that's what we said.
When one of our gang hesitated over a project, whether it were conducting some original research or figuring out how to get a date,
that's what we said.
And when we were in a session with a client, that's what we said, too.
The reason we passionately believed in this idea was because it was quite obvious to us that the cause of most psychological disorders, whether they were the garden variety or the serious ones, were due to emotional suppression.
We equated "feel more" with "be more."
On the surface, this seems correct.
After all, if you want to try something new that will eventually empower you, feeling it more will empower you more.
And, if you want to help someone pull out of a stuck state, feeling it more will flush it out.
Or, if something doesn't feel right and you shouldn't go along with a person or situation, it may be your intuition ringing a loud alarm.
In such cases, it's wise to trust your feelings.
But there is a shadow side to trusting your feelings and going with them.
Let me explain:
This is when you should do something, but you don't feel like doing it. So you don't do it.
You probably want some examples.
You should clean up the kitchen, tidy your desk, or go to bed early because you have a busy day ahead, but you don't feel like it.
The result is that your kitchen becomes a health hazard, your desk the source of your habitual inefficiency, and your late nights, the reason for your low energy and bad moods.
You went with your feelings alright, and had to pay a price for it. Was it wise to trust those feelings?
Now let's dig a little deeper.
Why do we have feelings that we shouldn't trust in the first place? Where do they come from? Is a part of our mind deliberately out to wreck our little world?
The answer to the source of these feeling is the subconscious mind. In particular, past associations of pain associated with the necessary activities.
It's not fun cleaning the kitchen, washing and rinsing dishes, wiping down the counter, putting away dinner, and taking out the trash. It's a lot more fun to watch T.V. So pleasure wins.
It's not fun tidying up your desk, filing away old documents, finding a place to put your calculator, and wondering what to do with all the excessive pens you've collected. It's more fun to fire up your computer and check your email.
It's not fun going to bed early when you feel the need to watch T.V., chat on the phone, or do something else that you consider pleasurable.
Pain, pain, pain.
Why opt for pain, when it can be substituted for pleasure?
It's because the pain you avoid today will only get worse tomorrow.
The 15 minutes it takes to clean the kitchen will one day prevent a 3 hour attempt to create sanity (and sanitation).
The 10 minutes it takes to tidy your desk will one day prevent a frantic search for that overdue bill that you're now paying a late fee on.
The 5 minutes it takes to go to bed will prevent you from dragging through the next day feeling like death warmed over.
Ideally, you can flip the switch and change associations of pain into those of pleasure and make the clean kitchen, and the tidy desk, and the early bedtime sources of pride.
But it does take some work, and you may not feel like it.
Is Hypnosis A Science Or An Art? - It's All In The Mind
The debate is an ongoing one, and no one seems to know the definite answer. So is Hypnosis actually an art or is it a science. Loyalists from both the camps will fervently argue about their case being stronger; however, I maintain that hypnosis is a combination of both these streams. So there! It's a win-win situation.
Researches studying the nature of hypnosis have found that it's a state of near trance, where the person undergoing hypnosis is extremely relaxed, both internally and externally. We experience a heightened sense of imagination while under a hypnotic state, and are open to suggestions and changes. Through the years psychiatrists and researchers have also figured out a number of instances in our daily lives when we experience these hypnotic states on our own. Times when we are daydreaming, when we are completely engrossed in a book, when we are driving or even while watching a movie; these are situations when we lose ourselves in the moment; we are concentrating on something we are doing with such force, that we shut out external disturbances and stimuli. Even though we are conscious of all that's going on around us, it seems as if we have switched off mentally. And that is exactly how hypnotherapy works as well.
Hypnosis has long been perceived with doubt; all sorts of misgivings have clouded people's imaginations. Some people called it pagan rituals, while others gave it the sinister name of occult. Popular mediums such as films and books also added to the image by presenting the hypnotist as an evil character who is out to control your life by uttering strange words. For the last few years hypnotherapists like me, aided with research findings have been fighting against that image. If you look at me, you will consider me to be a normal guy; no turbans, gaudy costumes, and cheap jewelry can be found on my person. I am here to break a myth, and I am here to say that hypnotherapy is both a science and art.
It is a science because hypnotherapy is being widely practiced today for clinical psychology and its healing properties. People the world over are waking up to the reality of hypnosis being able to cure innumerable lifestyle and personality maladies. From low confidence to sexual issues, from smoking to weight loss... people seem to be benefiting from the effects of hypnosis for a variety of problems. Hypnosis is a science because it deals with our minds - the subconscious mind. A lot of research has been undertaken to understand the way our mind functions; and one of the astounding discoveries was, that our conscious minds are constantly being directed by the more powerful, yet subtle subconscious. So, in truth our subconscious is the real driving force behind all our thoughts and actions; our conscious minds constantly ruminating over the feedback given to it by our subconscious. And hypnotherapy's underlying belief lies in the power of our subconscious.
Hypnotherapy can also be an art, simply because it can be mastered with practice. Something like learning to play a flute, or learning to paint. While we may have the natural flair to be artists, we need to hone our talent. Similarly hypnosis takes practice and patience, before we can see positive results. It is also an art because it deals with humans and human feelings such as jealousy, guilt, shame, which have been so well represented over the years in literature. Hypnotherapy is an art also because individuals who have mastered it can use it for lighthearted entertainment - stage hypnosis is practiced successfully by many professionals, who manage to make people laugh even while demonstrating how powerful our subconscious really is.
Researches studying the nature of hypnosis have found that it's a state of near trance, where the person undergoing hypnosis is extremely relaxed, both internally and externally. We experience a heightened sense of imagination while under a hypnotic state, and are open to suggestions and changes. Through the years psychiatrists and researchers have also figured out a number of instances in our daily lives when we experience these hypnotic states on our own. Times when we are daydreaming, when we are completely engrossed in a book, when we are driving or even while watching a movie; these are situations when we lose ourselves in the moment; we are concentrating on something we are doing with such force, that we shut out external disturbances and stimuli. Even though we are conscious of all that's going on around us, it seems as if we have switched off mentally. And that is exactly how hypnotherapy works as well.
Hypnosis has long been perceived with doubt; all sorts of misgivings have clouded people's imaginations. Some people called it pagan rituals, while others gave it the sinister name of occult. Popular mediums such as films and books also added to the image by presenting the hypnotist as an evil character who is out to control your life by uttering strange words. For the last few years hypnotherapists like me, aided with research findings have been fighting against that image. If you look at me, you will consider me to be a normal guy; no turbans, gaudy costumes, and cheap jewelry can be found on my person. I am here to break a myth, and I am here to say that hypnotherapy is both a science and art.
It is a science because hypnotherapy is being widely practiced today for clinical psychology and its healing properties. People the world over are waking up to the reality of hypnosis being able to cure innumerable lifestyle and personality maladies. From low confidence to sexual issues, from smoking to weight loss... people seem to be benefiting from the effects of hypnosis for a variety of problems. Hypnosis is a science because it deals with our minds - the subconscious mind. A lot of research has been undertaken to understand the way our mind functions; and one of the astounding discoveries was, that our conscious minds are constantly being directed by the more powerful, yet subtle subconscious. So, in truth our subconscious is the real driving force behind all our thoughts and actions; our conscious minds constantly ruminating over the feedback given to it by our subconscious. And hypnotherapy's underlying belief lies in the power of our subconscious.
Hypnotherapy can also be an art, simply because it can be mastered with practice. Something like learning to play a flute, or learning to paint. While we may have the natural flair to be artists, we need to hone our talent. Similarly hypnosis takes practice and patience, before we can see positive results. It is also an art because it deals with humans and human feelings such as jealousy, guilt, shame, which have been so well represented over the years in literature. Hypnotherapy is an art also because individuals who have mastered it can use it for lighthearted entertainment - stage hypnosis is practiced successfully by many professionals, who manage to make people laugh even while demonstrating how powerful our subconscious really is.
What Does It Take To Feel Truly Alive
What is stopping you from enthusiastically living your life?
Here you are in the middle of this massive adventure called life, with the possibility of having tremendous success and enjoying wealth, health, wonderful relationships, and the fulfillment of your talents, yet somehow you seem to have run out of joy.
Looking back, it seems as if you can't really think of ever having lived as if it were an adventure. There may have been pockets of spontaneous outbursts and creative expression, but they seem few and far between. If you're like most people, much of your life has been spent in stress, strain, and struggle.
The bad news is that with each passing day, you're running out of time.
The only way you're going to ever feel enthusiastic about your life and start feeling the fullness of life itself is by taking back your power.
You have to stop your world and take a look at it.
Since your thoughts create your life, a good place to start would be by examining your thoughts. Have you been busy describing your life rather than deliberately creating it? Most people spend much of their time describing all their experiences as if they were trying to solve a problem. This is a huge psychic drain. Only when you are creating, rather than rehashing, can you excite your mind to produce better outcomes.
How many times have you said, "Yes, I can do it!" How many times have you said, "Yes, this is what I will be, do, and have." How many times have you said, "Yes, I will learn what I need to learn to master this particular challenge."
If you have said this frequently, then your life has an enviable momentum to it and others watch you in amazement. But if you have not followed an affirmative way of living in the world, you have been steadily losing your power to be, do, and have what you want.
Your thoughts create your life and if you are not thinking affirmative thoughts, chances are that you are busy giving away your power to other people, circumstances, or your own past mishaps. With this self-generating psychic energy drain, is it really a mystery that you are low on life-force and feel that life is sometimes to much to deal with?
Do you realize that there is a massive conspiracy to undermine your personal power? Since infancy you have been told that you are not good enough. Every cultural institution wants you to conform to their ideas of what you should be, do, and have. You can see that economic, religious, political, and even police and military forces have worked hard to make you feel less than capable.
Yet, this is a lie. And by buying into this lie, you have given away your power.
The truth is that you are the creator of your own reality, and by affirming what you want to be, do, and have, these things start showing up for you.
People do not affirm their reality because they are reacting to what is before them, which is usually some form of coercion to perform according to somebody else's idea of what is good for them.
Fortunately for human evolution, there are those who chose to affirm their own reality over the collective viewpoint. Thus, artists and scientists, thinkers and philosophers push the envelope, disagree with the collective will, and create new realities.
Albert Einstein did not agree with Newtonian physics and envisioned a whole new view of the universe. Mahatma Gandhi did not agree with the imperial vision of colonialism and inspired a free nation. Martin Luther King did not believe in the historical policy of racism and created more dignity in the world.
When the voice and the vision on the inside is greater than the opinions and influences on the outside, you will understand what it means to take back your power, and when you do, instead of feeling oppressed, you will feel the exhilaration of truly expressing yourself and creating your dreams.
Life really is far too short to keep denying your own greatness. It is vision and daring that makes it worth living. Ironically, those who decide to take back their power find doors where they expected to encounter walls.
Here you are in the middle of this massive adventure called life, with the possibility of having tremendous success and enjoying wealth, health, wonderful relationships, and the fulfillment of your talents, yet somehow you seem to have run out of joy.
Looking back, it seems as if you can't really think of ever having lived as if it were an adventure. There may have been pockets of spontaneous outbursts and creative expression, but they seem few and far between. If you're like most people, much of your life has been spent in stress, strain, and struggle.
The bad news is that with each passing day, you're running out of time.
The only way you're going to ever feel enthusiastic about your life and start feeling the fullness of life itself is by taking back your power.
You have to stop your world and take a look at it.
Since your thoughts create your life, a good place to start would be by examining your thoughts. Have you been busy describing your life rather than deliberately creating it? Most people spend much of their time describing all their experiences as if they were trying to solve a problem. This is a huge psychic drain. Only when you are creating, rather than rehashing, can you excite your mind to produce better outcomes.
How many times have you said, "Yes, I can do it!" How many times have you said, "Yes, this is what I will be, do, and have." How many times have you said, "Yes, I will learn what I need to learn to master this particular challenge."
If you have said this frequently, then your life has an enviable momentum to it and others watch you in amazement. But if you have not followed an affirmative way of living in the world, you have been steadily losing your power to be, do, and have what you want.
Your thoughts create your life and if you are not thinking affirmative thoughts, chances are that you are busy giving away your power to other people, circumstances, or your own past mishaps. With this self-generating psychic energy drain, is it really a mystery that you are low on life-force and feel that life is sometimes to much to deal with?
Do you realize that there is a massive conspiracy to undermine your personal power? Since infancy you have been told that you are not good enough. Every cultural institution wants you to conform to their ideas of what you should be, do, and have. You can see that economic, religious, political, and even police and military forces have worked hard to make you feel less than capable.
Yet, this is a lie. And by buying into this lie, you have given away your power.
The truth is that you are the creator of your own reality, and by affirming what you want to be, do, and have, these things start showing up for you.
People do not affirm their reality because they are reacting to what is before them, which is usually some form of coercion to perform according to somebody else's idea of what is good for them.
Fortunately for human evolution, there are those who chose to affirm their own reality over the collective viewpoint. Thus, artists and scientists, thinkers and philosophers push the envelope, disagree with the collective will, and create new realities.
Albert Einstein did not agree with Newtonian physics and envisioned a whole new view of the universe. Mahatma Gandhi did not agree with the imperial vision of colonialism and inspired a free nation. Martin Luther King did not believe in the historical policy of racism and created more dignity in the world.
When the voice and the vision on the inside is greater than the opinions and influences on the outside, you will understand what it means to take back your power, and when you do, instead of feeling oppressed, you will feel the exhilaration of truly expressing yourself and creating your dreams.
Life really is far too short to keep denying your own greatness. It is vision and daring that makes it worth living. Ironically, those who decide to take back their power find doors where they expected to encounter walls.
Here Is The Secret Of My Success
Your subconscious mind is always saying "yes!"
This "yes" is a very powerful thing. While your conscious mind can only process about 7 bits of information per second, your subconscious mind can process 7 billion bits of information per second. While your conscious mind can barely remember what happened an hour ago, your subconscious mind can remember everything with total recall.
What is your subconscious mind saying "yes" to?
Do you say things like this to yourself: "I don't earn enough. I can't afford it. Why do they charge so much? I'd really like to get it but I can't afford it right now. That's all the company pays." If you're thinking these thoughts, your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to it and you're getting more of what you don't want.
Do you say things like this to yourself: "I feel really tired right now. My back and shoulders are killing me. What wouldn't I do for just a little more energy. I could accomplish so much more if I didn't feel this bad all the time." Again, your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to it.
Do you say things like this to yourself: "I feel so lonely. Nobody really loves me. They're all just pretending to be my friends because they want something from me.
He/she just doesn't love me the way they used to. People are really mean to me. It always amazes me how rude/crude/ungrateful/selfish/stupid other people can be. I could accomplish so much more if they just gave me a chance." Again, your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to it.
You can turn this around by thinking completely different thoughts. "I can afford this right now because what I will learn from it will bring my money back quickly. I am really at the right place here to earn more. I'm going to make this investment right now."
Similarly, you can be thinking, "The more I exercise and eat right the better I feel. When I feel tired, it's fine for me to rest and get my energy back."
And you can be thinking, "It's great to be me. It's funny how people go out of their way to make me happy."
Since your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to these things, too, you will soon find yourself attracting more money, more health, and more positive relationships.
Your subconscious mind is a vast reservoir of pure intelligence. It powerfully supports you in whatever you think or dream.
Your subconscious mind hooks up to the super-conscious mind to bring you serendipidity and synchronicity. You start getting into the right moods, start working more productively, start sharing more of yourself with others. You start feeling better and acting more intelligently. You start to get intuitions and wonderful coincidences fall into your lap.
I'd like to give you an example of how amazing all this stuff is from my own experience. The other day I came across a website where I wanted to get the product. I thought, "I'd like to get this." It was an expensive product but I was fine with it because I knew I could afford it. Then I got a telephone call and got busy and actually forgot about this website.
However, my subconscious mind had said "yes" to it.
Then yesterday I got an email from someone I did not know. They said that they had been to my website and really liked my products and what I was doing online. They sent me a link to their product, asking me what I thought about it. Imagine my surprise when I downloaded the product to find that it was the exact product I was intending to buy the other day!
Stuff like this happens to me all the time. Why? It's because I know that my subconscious mind is saying "yes" to whatever I ask and I have trained myself to ask for what I want and to completely ignore what I don't want. I could tell you many other stories where things just show up for me with no effort on my part, but I think you get the point.
That's my secret, and now you know it too and can apply it.
This "yes" is a very powerful thing. While your conscious mind can only process about 7 bits of information per second, your subconscious mind can process 7 billion bits of information per second. While your conscious mind can barely remember what happened an hour ago, your subconscious mind can remember everything with total recall.
What is your subconscious mind saying "yes" to?
Do you say things like this to yourself: "I don't earn enough. I can't afford it. Why do they charge so much? I'd really like to get it but I can't afford it right now. That's all the company pays." If you're thinking these thoughts, your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to it and you're getting more of what you don't want.
Do you say things like this to yourself: "I feel really tired right now. My back and shoulders are killing me. What wouldn't I do for just a little more energy. I could accomplish so much more if I didn't feel this bad all the time." Again, your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to it.
Do you say things like this to yourself: "I feel so lonely. Nobody really loves me. They're all just pretending to be my friends because they want something from me.
He/she just doesn't love me the way they used to. People are really mean to me. It always amazes me how rude/crude/ungrateful/selfish/stupid other people can be. I could accomplish so much more if they just gave me a chance." Again, your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to it.
You can turn this around by thinking completely different thoughts. "I can afford this right now because what I will learn from it will bring my money back quickly. I am really at the right place here to earn more. I'm going to make this investment right now."
Similarly, you can be thinking, "The more I exercise and eat right the better I feel. When I feel tired, it's fine for me to rest and get my energy back."
And you can be thinking, "It's great to be me. It's funny how people go out of their way to make me happy."
Since your subconscious mind is saying "yes" to these things, too, you will soon find yourself attracting more money, more health, and more positive relationships.
Your subconscious mind is a vast reservoir of pure intelligence. It powerfully supports you in whatever you think or dream.
Your subconscious mind hooks up to the super-conscious mind to bring you serendipidity and synchronicity. You start getting into the right moods, start working more productively, start sharing more of yourself with others. You start feeling better and acting more intelligently. You start to get intuitions and wonderful coincidences fall into your lap.
I'd like to give you an example of how amazing all this stuff is from my own experience. The other day I came across a website where I wanted to get the product. I thought, "I'd like to get this." It was an expensive product but I was fine with it because I knew I could afford it. Then I got a telephone call and got busy and actually forgot about this website.
However, my subconscious mind had said "yes" to it.
Then yesterday I got an email from someone I did not know. They said that they had been to my website and really liked my products and what I was doing online. They sent me a link to their product, asking me what I thought about it. Imagine my surprise when I downloaded the product to find that it was the exact product I was intending to buy the other day!
Stuff like this happens to me all the time. Why? It's because I know that my subconscious mind is saying "yes" to whatever I ask and I have trained myself to ask for what I want and to completely ignore what I don't want. I could tell you many other stories where things just show up for me with no effort on my part, but I think you get the point.
That's my secret, and now you know it too and can apply it.
Kinds Of Therapy For Depressed Patients
Behavioral therapy offers a fairly high success rate. It can be conducted on an individual basis or as part of a group therapy strategy. Behavioral therapy focuses primarily on helping depressed patients to develop coping strategies for the problems they encounter and new patterns of behavior. This technique also involves instructing patients to increase their recognition of desirable situations and events as they happen. In a sense, behavioral therapy is a means of teaching people to find the positive and to better deal with the negative. It attacks depression on both fronts and is a popular treatment option.
1. Interpersonal Therapy
This strategy is premised on the notion that interpersonal difficulties are the primary problem experienced by the depressed patient. It works by increasing the awareness of interpersonal interaction patterns and teaches the patient how to alter and improve these patterns. It is often perceived as a short-term treatment option for depression, but does offer a success rate on par with other popular therapeutic techniques.
2. Cognitive Therapy
Cognitive therapy utilizes behavioral techniques to retrain thinking patterns in depressed patients. Cognitive approaches also boast a relatively high level of success and research indicates that this technique may decrease the likelihood of experience additional depressive episodes after treatment is completed. Cognitive therapy is focused upon recognizing and then correcting thinking patterns that are believed to contribute to depression. This is accomplished via restructuring exercises performed under the guidance of a professional.
3. Other Therapies
Other therapy options do exist. Talk therapy, reminiscence therapy and self control therapy strategies have all been used to treat those with a diagnosis of depression. The optimal therapeutic approach cannot be easily discerned and will vary from patient to patient.
1. Interpersonal Therapy
This strategy is premised on the notion that interpersonal difficulties are the primary problem experienced by the depressed patient. It works by increasing the awareness of interpersonal interaction patterns and teaches the patient how to alter and improve these patterns. It is often perceived as a short-term treatment option for depression, but does offer a success rate on par with other popular therapeutic techniques.
2. Cognitive Therapy
Cognitive therapy utilizes behavioral techniques to retrain thinking patterns in depressed patients. Cognitive approaches also boast a relatively high level of success and research indicates that this technique may decrease the likelihood of experience additional depressive episodes after treatment is completed. Cognitive therapy is focused upon recognizing and then correcting thinking patterns that are believed to contribute to depression. This is accomplished via restructuring exercises performed under the guidance of a professional.
3. Other Therapies
Other therapy options do exist. Talk therapy, reminiscence therapy and self control therapy strategies have all been used to treat those with a diagnosis of depression. The optimal therapeutic approach cannot be easily discerned and will vary from patient to patient.
How To Be A Success
Learn how to master your area of endeavor the right way. Start out by finding the people and books that will make you exceptional. Seek out the best sources of information that you can afford.
Analyze each part of the skill you wish to master, then put it all together to create a fluid form. Develop first a theoretical understanding, then a practical one. When you practice your knowledge, your work will flow and appear effortless.
Practice relentlessly. Spend long hours practicing. Keep a regular schedule for your activity. If you have long gaps between practice, you will lose some momentum in mastering your skill. The cumulative effect of practice will make you exceptional.
Self-discipline will come from imagination. When you can create a burning desire by imagining your ultimate success, self-discipline will happen spontaneously. If you do not have a burning desire, you may want to rethink your goals. Unless you feel passionate about your goals, the smallest obstacle will throw you off course.
Believe in yourself. Recall all the previous successes you have had in your life. Use these memories to build an enduring self-confidence. When you believe that you can do something, you will find a way to make your belief come true.
If you methodically prepare for your own particular game you will find yourself on the way to mastery. You can win in any of the games of life. Just decide on it, and follow up with study and practice.
You can move beyond your stuck states by contemplating all the possible consequences of your own particular situation.
What is it that you want to work in your life?
What inner obstacles prevent you from achieving the successful outcome you desire?
Once you have confronted your own fears, then you will be ready to take stock of your current situation and try out new strategies.
There are three stages of problem-solving.
First, get clear on your vague fears and imaginings. Bring them out in the open. Confront them. See what is really going on. Unless you can ask the right question, which comes from getting the right perspective on the issue, you will not be able to
start looking for the right answer.
Second, once you have some inner clarity, freed from emotional congestion, look at your problems objectively, empirically. Ask yourself what needs to happen here to make things work out? Ask an objective, matter-of-fact, question. Avoid subjective, questions.
And third, apply all available resources to solve your problem. Make a list of all your resources. This includes people you can query or books, articles, or multimedia you can learn from.
Above all, find your way back to faith in your situation. When you believe in yourself, when you can rekindle the flame of hope in your heart, when you can reanimate your brain and your nervous system then the creative solution to your problem will arise. Once you clear the vague, illusive, obstructive emotional blocks, your mind will function clearly and well.
Once you confront a problem head on, you are halfway there to resolving it. Turning your back on problems, avoiding them, and procrastinating only makes them more substantial and terrifying. Once you face your fears, you can begin to solve your problem. Once you have brought your fears to light, courage returns, and with courage comes hope, and with hope, creativity, boldness, and magic.
Problems appear frustratingly difficult to solve because they come with a lot of emotional charge. But once you remove the charge, you will see that you need to take only three simple steps to solve them.
Analyze each part of the skill you wish to master, then put it all together to create a fluid form. Develop first a theoretical understanding, then a practical one. When you practice your knowledge, your work will flow and appear effortless.
Practice relentlessly. Spend long hours practicing. Keep a regular schedule for your activity. If you have long gaps between practice, you will lose some momentum in mastering your skill. The cumulative effect of practice will make you exceptional.
Self-discipline will come from imagination. When you can create a burning desire by imagining your ultimate success, self-discipline will happen spontaneously. If you do not have a burning desire, you may want to rethink your goals. Unless you feel passionate about your goals, the smallest obstacle will throw you off course.
Believe in yourself. Recall all the previous successes you have had in your life. Use these memories to build an enduring self-confidence. When you believe that you can do something, you will find a way to make your belief come true.
If you methodically prepare for your own particular game you will find yourself on the way to mastery. You can win in any of the games of life. Just decide on it, and follow up with study and practice.
You can move beyond your stuck states by contemplating all the possible consequences of your own particular situation.
What is it that you want to work in your life?
What inner obstacles prevent you from achieving the successful outcome you desire?
Once you have confronted your own fears, then you will be ready to take stock of your current situation and try out new strategies.
There are three stages of problem-solving.
First, get clear on your vague fears and imaginings. Bring them out in the open. Confront them. See what is really going on. Unless you can ask the right question, which comes from getting the right perspective on the issue, you will not be able to
start looking for the right answer.
Second, once you have some inner clarity, freed from emotional congestion, look at your problems objectively, empirically. Ask yourself what needs to happen here to make things work out? Ask an objective, matter-of-fact, question. Avoid subjective, questions.
And third, apply all available resources to solve your problem. Make a list of all your resources. This includes people you can query or books, articles, or multimedia you can learn from.
Above all, find your way back to faith in your situation. When you believe in yourself, when you can rekindle the flame of hope in your heart, when you can reanimate your brain and your nervous system then the creative solution to your problem will arise. Once you clear the vague, illusive, obstructive emotional blocks, your mind will function clearly and well.
Once you confront a problem head on, you are halfway there to resolving it. Turning your back on problems, avoiding them, and procrastinating only makes them more substantial and terrifying. Once you face your fears, you can begin to solve your problem. Once you have brought your fears to light, courage returns, and with courage comes hope, and with hope, creativity, boldness, and magic.
Problems appear frustratingly difficult to solve because they come with a lot of emotional charge. But once you remove the charge, you will see that you need to take only three simple steps to solve them.
The AAA Method For Getting Staggering Success
A lot of time we find ourselves in situations in our relationships with our loved ones, with our business, with friends, at work, with our health and finances where we realize that we are kind of stuck. It is that stage where you are not going anywhere despite the efforts. It seems like every time you are trying to make a move, the whole world comes against you and all of a sudden you are back at the “stuck stage.” So what do you do when you find yourself in that spot? I have known so many people who are stuck and have been stuck for years. How do you get unstuck? This is a simple plan that works equally well in business as well as personal level.
This is what is called the AAA method for getting yourself out of the trap.
The first A stands for Accept. You can’t escape from a trap unless you accept and admit that you are in a trap. And that doesn’t mean that you need to go to a meeting and publicly admit to the world that you have a problem. But admit to yourself that hey, I am not just a little short on cash, I am going broke; I am not just a little unhealthy, I am 50 pounds overweight. Way too many people try to be politically correct with themselves, and it is not doing them any good. It is impossible to move on until you accept your situation to yourself in a brutally honest way.
The second A: Once you have Accepted your situation, then you must to Analyze how you got there in the first place. What caused you to be in this situation? Make sure not to analyze yourself to death however and end up in Analysis Paralysis (business majors can you hear me?)
The third A: Accepting and Analyzing your situation doesn’t do much good unless you Act upon it. Decide what you need to do to get yourself unstuck, and rock and roll your way out immediately. Accept, Analyze, Act=Getting yourself unstuck. Have a great week! - Nik D'Angelo
This is what is called the AAA method for getting yourself out of the trap.
The first A stands for Accept. You can’t escape from a trap unless you accept and admit that you are in a trap. And that doesn’t mean that you need to go to a meeting and publicly admit to the world that you have a problem. But admit to yourself that hey, I am not just a little short on cash, I am going broke; I am not just a little unhealthy, I am 50 pounds overweight. Way too many people try to be politically correct with themselves, and it is not doing them any good. It is impossible to move on until you accept your situation to yourself in a brutally honest way.
The second A: Once you have Accepted your situation, then you must to Analyze how you got there in the first place. What caused you to be in this situation? Make sure not to analyze yourself to death however and end up in Analysis Paralysis (business majors can you hear me?)
The third A: Accepting and Analyzing your situation doesn’t do much good unless you Act upon it. Decide what you need to do to get yourself unstuck, and rock and roll your way out immediately. Accept, Analyze, Act=Getting yourself unstuck. Have a great week! - Nik D'Angelo
8 Ways to Instantly Calm Yourself
We all have felt anxiety before. No matter how confident and relaxed you are, you know what it’s like to be nervous before an interview, trembling before a speech, or cold and clammy over the pending results of your graded quiz.
The point of this article is to provide you with eight different ways to release this tension. There are more powerful ways in which you can relax (as we will provide in our products) however this article provides eight ways you can use anywhere. Hardly anyone will actually notice that you are using them. You will not have to sit in a meditation position on the floor, or chant mantras to relax yourself… so no worries.
Also, notice the title of this article is not “…Calm Yourself Down”. We don’t calm down. We calm up.
Calming yourself involves not detaching yourself from your environment, but integrating yourself with it while you mentally move inward to obtain steadiness. You should not feel tired or detached. You should simply become “in the zone”: Alert, focused and relaxed.
Chair Press-Up
This one’s great for if you are waiting to give a speech or if you are nervous in a group setting. Simply put your feet flat on the floor. Put your hands on the arms of your chair. If your chair doesn’t have arms, place them on the edges of the seat. Brace yourself. Now, take a deep breath, and push up with your arms and feet as you exhale. Lock your arms – let your torso hang from your locked arms for a moment while you finish exhaling… long and deep. Go limp, but remain locked in the up position. Now sit back down. You feel like a noodle, and everything is cool.
Breathing
Breathing is absolutely crucial to calming yourself. I recommend you do some in-depth research on Eastern styles of breathing, and how to breathe powerfully with your diaphragm. Breathe in strongly and slowly through your nose as you expand your diaphragm. Your stomach should rise, not your chest. Now, blow it out strongly and steadily through your mouth. Repeat this a few times. You can feel the tension leaving your body.
Spread Legs
This one may not seem like much, but it has serious subconscious value. When most people are relaxed (particularly us guys) we have a tendency to spread our legs slightly and take up more space. By consciously spreading your legs while sitting (or standing) you will take up more space, which is what we generally do when we are comfortable in a setting. Perform the action, and the feeling of comfort will follow.
Slouch Slightly
Yes, slouching is bad for your posture. Slouching for years will curve your spine. Slouching for a few minutes will not. This is another habit most people demonstrate when they are relaxed and comfortable: They slouch. So, next time you feel antsy about a situation, allow yourself to lean back your head and slouch slightly in your chair. Once again, the feeling will follow the action.
Power Hands
Powerful people are often calm, relaxed and comfortable in their actions. When they sit around a table, they often do one of two things with their hands: Steepling, or the hands-behind-the-head. To steeple, put your elbows on the table, and steeple your hands in front of your face – like the bad guy does in the movie when he’s going “M’yesss…. Muwahaha…. I can see it all coming together so perfectly…” Think of yourself as the bad guy when you steeple your hands. You know you are going to win. You steeple your hands as you turn over your master plan inside your head. Everything is falling into place so perfectly. Muwhaha. For more of a “corporate” power / relaxation effect, lean back in your chair and put your hands behind your head, lacing your fingers together. This is how bosses sit when they are talking to people who work for them. It has profound effects in making you feel more powerful and relaxed.
Anchoring
This is an incredible psychological tool we will cover in more depth in our products. Your subconscious mind anchors certain actions / stimuli with certain feelings and responses. Psychological anchors and triggers are used everywhere. It is the reason behind many strong emotional connections. If you had a song played at your wedding, hearing the song played at a later date may make you cry. The emotional event was your wedding, and you heard a song during it (the anchor). Thus, the song became tied to the feelings you felt during your wedding. Upon hearing the song again (the trigger) you feel the same feelings again.
Another example is if you became very ill once from a certain drink, you may become sick simply from smelling the drink in the future. The emotional event was becoming very ill, and the anchor was the drink. Therefore, smelling the drink in the future could make you sick very quickly. Anchors are used everywhere, in positive and negative emotions. To use them to calm yourself, develop a specific anchor every time you are calm. My anchor is to place my hand palm-down on my thigh. Every time I am relaxed, I do this, to reinforce the anchor. Then when I need to be calm, I simply fire the trigger (palm on the thigh) and my mind recreates the emotion tied to that anchor – which is relaxation. Pick an anchor you don’t use that much, such as touching your ear, or putting your hand on your knee. Do it whenever you are relaxed, and when you need to become relaxed, doing it will help to put you in that mental state.
Kill Internal Dialogue
There are many ways to do this, but here’s one good technique: If you are talking yourself into a worrisome state, or worrying while talking to someone during a conversation, do this immediately. Defocus your eyes, and open your peripheral vision. Look at two areas ahead of you, to each side. Picture your conscious thoughts in those areas. Now, draw your gaze up from both points at 45 degree angles until they meet in the high-center of your vision. Next bring the gaze straight down, so it is directly in front of you (a person’s face if you are talking to them). Now, picture your gaze coming straight back to your own head, as you return your consciousness to your own mind. Not only does it help increase focus, but the simple effort required to perform the exercise will often stop any distracting internal dialogue you are having at the time.
Centering
If you feel a general anxiety of your whole body, such as being self-conscious of your hands, feet, or body position, this exercise can work wonders. Close your eyes. Take a few deep, long breaths: in through your nose and out through your mouth. Place your tongue on your front pallet, directly above the backside of your upper teeth- this is effective in stimulating cross-lobe integration (and relaxation) in the brain. Picture a point far in front of you. Project your thoughts there in your mind. Continue breathing, and keep your thoughts there, until you are fully relaxed and have forgotten about clammy hands, sweaty feet, or mismatched socks. Once you are relaxed, slowly bring the point in front of you closer as you return to a fully aware state.
The point of this article is to provide you with eight different ways to release this tension. There are more powerful ways in which you can relax (as we will provide in our products) however this article provides eight ways you can use anywhere. Hardly anyone will actually notice that you are using them. You will not have to sit in a meditation position on the floor, or chant mantras to relax yourself… so no worries.
Also, notice the title of this article is not “…Calm Yourself Down”. We don’t calm down. We calm up.
Calming yourself involves not detaching yourself from your environment, but integrating yourself with it while you mentally move inward to obtain steadiness. You should not feel tired or detached. You should simply become “in the zone”: Alert, focused and relaxed.
Chair Press-Up
This one’s great for if you are waiting to give a speech or if you are nervous in a group setting. Simply put your feet flat on the floor. Put your hands on the arms of your chair. If your chair doesn’t have arms, place them on the edges of the seat. Brace yourself. Now, take a deep breath, and push up with your arms and feet as you exhale. Lock your arms – let your torso hang from your locked arms for a moment while you finish exhaling… long and deep. Go limp, but remain locked in the up position. Now sit back down. You feel like a noodle, and everything is cool.
Breathing
Breathing is absolutely crucial to calming yourself. I recommend you do some in-depth research on Eastern styles of breathing, and how to breathe powerfully with your diaphragm. Breathe in strongly and slowly through your nose as you expand your diaphragm. Your stomach should rise, not your chest. Now, blow it out strongly and steadily through your mouth. Repeat this a few times. You can feel the tension leaving your body.
Spread Legs
This one may not seem like much, but it has serious subconscious value. When most people are relaxed (particularly us guys) we have a tendency to spread our legs slightly and take up more space. By consciously spreading your legs while sitting (or standing) you will take up more space, which is what we generally do when we are comfortable in a setting. Perform the action, and the feeling of comfort will follow.
Slouch Slightly
Yes, slouching is bad for your posture. Slouching for years will curve your spine. Slouching for a few minutes will not. This is another habit most people demonstrate when they are relaxed and comfortable: They slouch. So, next time you feel antsy about a situation, allow yourself to lean back your head and slouch slightly in your chair. Once again, the feeling will follow the action.
Power Hands
Powerful people are often calm, relaxed and comfortable in their actions. When they sit around a table, they often do one of two things with their hands: Steepling, or the hands-behind-the-head. To steeple, put your elbows on the table, and steeple your hands in front of your face – like the bad guy does in the movie when he’s going “M’yesss…. Muwahaha…. I can see it all coming together so perfectly…” Think of yourself as the bad guy when you steeple your hands. You know you are going to win. You steeple your hands as you turn over your master plan inside your head. Everything is falling into place so perfectly. Muwhaha. For more of a “corporate” power / relaxation effect, lean back in your chair and put your hands behind your head, lacing your fingers together. This is how bosses sit when they are talking to people who work for them. It has profound effects in making you feel more powerful and relaxed.
Anchoring
This is an incredible psychological tool we will cover in more depth in our products. Your subconscious mind anchors certain actions / stimuli with certain feelings and responses. Psychological anchors and triggers are used everywhere. It is the reason behind many strong emotional connections. If you had a song played at your wedding, hearing the song played at a later date may make you cry. The emotional event was your wedding, and you heard a song during it (the anchor). Thus, the song became tied to the feelings you felt during your wedding. Upon hearing the song again (the trigger) you feel the same feelings again.
Another example is if you became very ill once from a certain drink, you may become sick simply from smelling the drink in the future. The emotional event was becoming very ill, and the anchor was the drink. Therefore, smelling the drink in the future could make you sick very quickly. Anchors are used everywhere, in positive and negative emotions. To use them to calm yourself, develop a specific anchor every time you are calm. My anchor is to place my hand palm-down on my thigh. Every time I am relaxed, I do this, to reinforce the anchor. Then when I need to be calm, I simply fire the trigger (palm on the thigh) and my mind recreates the emotion tied to that anchor – which is relaxation. Pick an anchor you don’t use that much, such as touching your ear, or putting your hand on your knee. Do it whenever you are relaxed, and when you need to become relaxed, doing it will help to put you in that mental state.
Kill Internal Dialogue
There are many ways to do this, but here’s one good technique: If you are talking yourself into a worrisome state, or worrying while talking to someone during a conversation, do this immediately. Defocus your eyes, and open your peripheral vision. Look at two areas ahead of you, to each side. Picture your conscious thoughts in those areas. Now, draw your gaze up from both points at 45 degree angles until they meet in the high-center of your vision. Next bring the gaze straight down, so it is directly in front of you (a person’s face if you are talking to them). Now, picture your gaze coming straight back to your own head, as you return your consciousness to your own mind. Not only does it help increase focus, but the simple effort required to perform the exercise will often stop any distracting internal dialogue you are having at the time.
Centering
If you feel a general anxiety of your whole body, such as being self-conscious of your hands, feet, or body position, this exercise can work wonders. Close your eyes. Take a few deep, long breaths: in through your nose and out through your mouth. Place your tongue on your front pallet, directly above the backside of your upper teeth- this is effective in stimulating cross-lobe integration (and relaxation) in the brain. Picture a point far in front of you. Project your thoughts there in your mind. Continue breathing, and keep your thoughts there, until you are fully relaxed and have forgotten about clammy hands, sweaty feet, or mismatched socks. Once you are relaxed, slowly bring the point in front of you closer as you return to a fully aware state.
The Need for Personal Growth
More than ever we are in need of Personal Growth on a global level. We are in dire straits because of a general worldwide lack of knowledge and awareness of what’s possible when we create extraordinary lives for ourselves and each other. We can all contribute to the one world community and make the planet a bet ter place. The norm has been people who spread negative news, promote fast food and pharmaceutical concoctions rather than address the cause of real life issues.
We have been trained, to varying degrees, to obey authority, work hard, and to speak when called on. The educational system instills an early model for learning that conditions our behavior as adults. Some of you may be going through life, day-in and day-out, just working hard, watching TV, eating junk food, and falling into bed at night. You may be living on autopilot rather than directing your energies and living life to its fullest.
Think about it: You are the producer, director, and actor of the movie called your life. To live an outstanding life, which includes doing what you love and being all you can be, you need to be proactive and deliberate on designing your destiny.
Today’s world demands that powerful people step up and take a stand for what’s important. Together we can challenge systems that no longer serve us and create new structures that will be designed more effectively to set us up for success.
The quality of our lives depends on us and how we choose to live. The choices we make ultimately shape our lives and many of us are waking up to this fact. With movies such as What The Bleep Do We Know!?™ and The Secret, people are becoming aware that there is more to life than what meets the eye. The Power of Personal Growth offers you significant awareness and knowledge so you can make empowering choices to positively impact your life.
We have been trained, to varying degrees, to obey authority, work hard, and to speak when called on. The educational system instills an early model for learning that conditions our behavior as adults. Some of you may be going through life, day-in and day-out, just working hard, watching TV, eating junk food, and falling into bed at night. You may be living on autopilot rather than directing your energies and living life to its fullest.
Think about it: You are the producer, director, and actor of the movie called your life. To live an outstanding life, which includes doing what you love and being all you can be, you need to be proactive and deliberate on designing your destiny.
Today’s world demands that powerful people step up and take a stand for what’s important. Together we can challenge systems that no longer serve us and create new structures that will be designed more effectively to set us up for success.
The quality of our lives depends on us and how we choose to live. The choices we make ultimately shape our lives and many of us are waking up to this fact. With movies such as What The Bleep Do We Know!?™ and The Secret, people are becoming aware that there is more to life than what meets the eye. The Power of Personal Growth offers you significant awareness and knowledge so you can make empowering choices to positively impact your life.
A 22,000 Mile Jog For Cancer
If you thought the notion of jogging for years on end was restricted to the storyline of Forrest Gump, think again. A British woman named Rosie Swale-Pope is currently in her fourth year of attempting to run around the world. Rosie's journey started on her 57th birthday, October 2, 2003, from her home in Wales. This run is not without a purpose. In 2002, Rosie's husband Clive died of prostate cancer. Had her husband's cancer been spotted earlier, he may still be alive today.
Rosie is using the attention she's received from this long-trek, 22,000 miles so far, to promote early cancer screenings for both men and women. Throughout the entire run, Rosie has been harnessed to a 260 pound tent on wheels. She sleeps in this tent most nights after pulling it for an average of 15 miles per day.
It took Rosie close to two years to reach eastern Russia where she crossed over into Alaska in September of 2005. Since then, she has ran through Canada, re-entered the United States in Minnesota, and, according to her website (RosieAroundTheWorld.co.uk), is currently in New Jersey. She plans on continuing to Labrador, Canada, where she will cross the Atlantic to return home - thus ending the run. This leaves just about 2,000 miles left on her impressive jog.
When the run is complete, Rosie plans on authoring a book that details her around-the-world adventure.
Rosie is using the attention she's received from this long-trek, 22,000 miles so far, to promote early cancer screenings for both men and women. Throughout the entire run, Rosie has been harnessed to a 260 pound tent on wheels. She sleeps in this tent most nights after pulling it for an average of 15 miles per day.
It took Rosie close to two years to reach eastern Russia where she crossed over into Alaska in September of 2005. Since then, she has ran through Canada, re-entered the United States in Minnesota, and, according to her website (RosieAroundTheWorld.co.uk), is currently in New Jersey. She plans on continuing to Labrador, Canada, where she will cross the Atlantic to return home - thus ending the run. This leaves just about 2,000 miles left on her impressive jog.
When the run is complete, Rosie plans on authoring a book that details her around-the-world adventure.
Comparison of Hair Drug Testing With Saliva Drug Testing
An examination of specimen to detect specific drug presence or to determine prior drug abuse is known as drug test. Several methods have been developed to trace drug presence. Among those Hair and Saliva drug testing methods have emerged rapidly and accepted widely throughout the world.
Characteristics Of Hair Drug Testing And Saliva Drug Testing
Hair drug testing method is usually preferred in forensic studies due to its highly accurate results and many organizations use hair drug testing to find drug abuse for longer periods. Saliva drug testing is used in businesses, schools and in sports as results can be obtained immediately and due to its portability.
Hair drug testing and Saliva drug testing methods, both are donor friendly and difficult to adulterate. However, they have specific characteristics in respect of applications of usage.
• Easiness:
- The procedure followed to test drug presence using hair drug testing is easy. It is required to collect some hair samples and to send to a lab for testing.
- Saliva drug testing is easy to use and test can be conducted at the site of specimen collection.
• Duration For Drug Detection:
- Using Hair Drug Testing method, drug presence can be detected even after 90 days from the time of abuse. This test is widely accepted due to its effectiveness in results.
- Saliva drug testing is considered as an effective method to determine recent drug abuse and the duration of detection is 1-2 days from the time of abuse. Effectiveness of the results in saliva drug testing is based on the collection of the specimen.
• Adulteration:
- Adulteration of test samples in hair drug testing is highly impossible.
- In saliva drug testing, it is harder to adulterate but it is good to collect the specimen under the supervision for better results.
• Detects Major Drugs:
- Five major drugs abuse can be detected using hair drug testing using enzyme-immunoassay method.
- Seven major drugs can be detected using saliva drug testing, and using GC/MS method.
• Easy And Convenient:
- Hair drug testing technique is used at laboratories to detect drug presence from the test samples. Performing this test is easy, and convenient for those who know how to perform.
- Saliva drug testing is easy, and convenient to perform the test. This technique is more sensitive than any other drug testing method.
• Accuracy Of Results:
- Hair drug testing results are 100% accurate and these results are used as evidence for drug abuse.
- Accuracy of results in saliva drug testing is 95-98% and often performed in post accident situations.
• Skills Required For Conducting The Test:
- To perform a hair drug test, the person may need relevant knowledge to conduct the test. This test is usually conducted in highly equipped labs.
- Saliva drug testing can be performed by anyone, and at both home and lab.
This information gives characteristics of Hair drug testing and Saliva drug testing to understand the specific applications and to use both the testing methods effectively.
Characteristics Of Hair Drug Testing And Saliva Drug Testing
Hair drug testing method is usually preferred in forensic studies due to its highly accurate results and many organizations use hair drug testing to find drug abuse for longer periods. Saliva drug testing is used in businesses, schools and in sports as results can be obtained immediately and due to its portability.
Hair drug testing and Saliva drug testing methods, both are donor friendly and difficult to adulterate. However, they have specific characteristics in respect of applications of usage.
• Easiness:
- The procedure followed to test drug presence using hair drug testing is easy. It is required to collect some hair samples and to send to a lab for testing.
- Saliva drug testing is easy to use and test can be conducted at the site of specimen collection.
• Duration For Drug Detection:
- Using Hair Drug Testing method, drug presence can be detected even after 90 days from the time of abuse. This test is widely accepted due to its effectiveness in results.
- Saliva drug testing is considered as an effective method to determine recent drug abuse and the duration of detection is 1-2 days from the time of abuse. Effectiveness of the results in saliva drug testing is based on the collection of the specimen.
• Adulteration:
- Adulteration of test samples in hair drug testing is highly impossible.
- In saliva drug testing, it is harder to adulterate but it is good to collect the specimen under the supervision for better results.
• Detects Major Drugs:
- Five major drugs abuse can be detected using hair drug testing using enzyme-immunoassay method.
- Seven major drugs can be detected using saliva drug testing, and using GC/MS method.
• Easy And Convenient:
- Hair drug testing technique is used at laboratories to detect drug presence from the test samples. Performing this test is easy, and convenient for those who know how to perform.
- Saliva drug testing is easy, and convenient to perform the test. This technique is more sensitive than any other drug testing method.
• Accuracy Of Results:
- Hair drug testing results are 100% accurate and these results are used as evidence for drug abuse.
- Accuracy of results in saliva drug testing is 95-98% and often performed in post accident situations.
• Skills Required For Conducting The Test:
- To perform a hair drug test, the person may need relevant knowledge to conduct the test. This test is usually conducted in highly equipped labs.
- Saliva drug testing can be performed by anyone, and at both home and lab.
This information gives characteristics of Hair drug testing and Saliva drug testing to understand the specific applications and to use both the testing methods effectively.
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